DHARMA IN EVERYDAY LIFE
- AWAKEN YOUR KINDNESS
By Nhat Quan
You often feel
that you are lacking in this or that thing... but very rarely
do you feel you are lacking in kindness. To be more precise,
you don't care about benevolence because you feel you don't
have enough time to let you do this or that. That's why you
rarely, or never, regret your kindness just because it's an
invisible emotion, but it's the most precious capital that
every human being has.
Many of you
think, appreciating kindness doesn't make it possible for you
to do these and other things, because you have so many things
that make you feel for a lifetime. But have you ever thought
that no matter how busy you are with this or that, in the end,
you won't bring anything with you in life?
So the problem
is that you have to know how to live to be worthy of that
time. You work as a means to subsist, you should also
understand that the material values created always have their
temporary limits, and obviously cannot be the end goal for you
to aim for. Those material values can help you live a more
comfortable life, but you will pay a heavy price if you depend
solely on them. The true art of living is being aware of the
precious value of life in every beautiful moment which is
think that it is thanks to labor in industrial societies that
you get what you are today, with modern motorcycles, air
conditioners, and washing machines... and think that material
achievement is of the greatest significance.
completely deny it, but if I trade the preciousness of
humanity in a lifetime to struggle in the factories to create
those material comforts, I don't think it's worth it. As an
informed person, you can accept a simple life for a chance to
awaken your kindness, to live a happier and more meaningful
You work hard
to forget all day and hour to earn money and material
possessions, but if you only think about material possessions
and forget about kindness, you may be willing to burn those
material achievements for only a little while. Cherish every
moment lived by yourself because you don't know when you will
return to dust.
born naked and die with nothing. All the true value that you
can have is always in the way you use the kindness of your
life. So kindness needs to be cherished in every moment. When
you realize that the value of life lies in the fact that you
are living it, you will see that all other things become petty
and insignificant. Your life is precious, and the lives of
everyone around you are precious too.
when you wake up, you look up at the clear blue sky with the
morning sun rosy, or a young bud that has just sprouted and is
still wet with night dew. Each of these beautiful entities
reminds you that your life exists, and you should tell
yourself that you will not waste a second of your existence in
this miraculous life. How will you live to make yourself
happy, and bring joy and happiness to everyone around you?
Life is always
happening around you, but a lot of times you forget it. You
worry about this and that, and you work hard to acquire
material possessions, although those things are important,
they are all things of the future, and the future cannot be
specifically felt as real as the present moment you are living
in. When you understand that, you still work equally hard for
the goals you aim for, but above all, you are always aware of
your present moment of life and always awaken kindness to
behave well with people around you.
cultivation today, your goal is to accumulate some good
blessings for yourself or your descendants. But really the
results of cultivation are still in the future. So your true
happiness lies not in the future but in this present moment,
in every moment you practice, in the very moment you awaken
your kindness. So in the practice, of watering the good karma,
you need to know how to awaken your kindness to enjoy the joy
in that moment. When you understand that, even after many
years of practice, you will not have the results you want and
if this happens, you will not suffer. Because you already
enjoy the joy in the present while practicing and have nothing
to do with a future outcome. You have done your best to have
good moments in your life, and so you have no regrets or
suffering because of unwanted circumstances.
you have awakened the kindness in you, you can also enjoy the
joy of life while walking to the bus stop or waiting for the
bus, or during you do any things in your life. Every scene
that you see around you is life's priceless gift that you will
most likely never have the opportunity to see again. Nor will
you waste time daydreaming about the future or regretting the
past. Every moment you are living in the fresh air around you
is precious. Every person you are fortunate enough to come
into contact with is precious. So you must know that your joy
is only in touch through kindness and not in dreams and
fantasies. Even a flower, a leaf, you also need to be in
contact with such a kind heart to feel their existence and
Live in such a
way that your kindness is awakened to flow into a river, a
cool stream overflowing with joy and happiness that comes to
you in its unceasing flow. Only then will you not waste
valuable time, and realize happiness is a completely real
around the year 1979, it is often said that in a difficult
life, because of a piece of rice and a shirt, it is difficult
to find a smile. The truth is, It's difficult to find a smile
not because people are so busy with life that they forget to
smile, but because life in the subsidy system made people want
to laugh but couldn't smile. Now, although it is not much, at
least in the shops, offices, companies, and banks, people see
more smiles, which is the result of the awakened kindness.
the authors Linda Kaplan Thaler and Robin Koval, kindness has
very significant power. The authors cite that The Kaplan
Thaler Group's growth stems from signing a contract with one
of its major partners, US Bank, the sixth largest bank in the
United States. On the day of the partner's arrival, although
they were well prepared, they still felt afraid when on this
visit there was the President of US Bank, Mr. Richard Davis.
When the chairman entered the meeting room with his party, he
immediately mentioned Frank, the security guard outside. He
- He welcomed
me very warmly. So I thought, why wouldn't I want to work with
a company with people like Frank?
Linda Kaplan Thaler and Robin Koval when writing about the
power of benevolence, they completely no longer believe in the
popular philosophy today:
- Being gentle
does not guarantee good things.
And they also
- Our success
is won not with swords but with flowers and chocolates. Our
growth is not the result of fear and intimidation but of
smiles and praise.
according to these two authors suggest the following results
1. The result
obvious result is that The Kaplan Thaler Group has become a
big name in the advertising industry with nearly a billion
dollars in annual revenue. It confirms that kind and gentle
people are not always seen as shy, passive people, much less a
doormat for aggressive people. Because being gentle doesn't
mean being naive or silly. The authors assert:
- Kindness is
the hardest word in the world. It means stepping forward with
pure confidence, which comes from the realization that you
must be extremely compassionate and put the needs of others on
par with your own.
will be happy:
research by the University of Toronto and according to
statistics on the number of divorces, people with a kind and
empathetic temperament often have a fifty percent lower
divorce rate than other people.
will be healthy:
based on a study from the University of Michigan that showed
that elderly people in the US, if they work hard to help
others, whether it is volunteering or just helping the
neighbors, the rate of premature death is reduced by sixty
percent compared to people who never help anyone.
It is said
that there is one very precious thing you can give away
without fear of losing anything in your pocket or account,
people are still frugal and stingy in giving out those free
compliments. Also, where is the smile in today's life when you
fight each other little by little, through a scowl and annoyed
face? Surely no one likes to be treated badly, angry, or
criticized by others. So many times in the Digha Nikaya, Sutra
to Sigalovada, the Buddha reminds us through the meaning of
the Four Elements of Popularity:
there are five ways for a good man to treat his friends like
the North: giving, loving speech, taking advantage,
collaborating with friends, and not deceiving. Householders,
then friends have compassion for a good man in five ways:
Protecting if a good son is absent-mindedness, maintaining the
property of a good man if he is absent-mindedness; becoming a
refuge when the good man is in danger; don't stay away when
the good man is in trouble, respect the good man's family
big or small, if you live and act according to the Four
Elements of Popularity, the unity and structure will be tight
and create the foundation for sustainable development. That is
exactly what European and American authors are trying to
promote the power of kindness. Indeed, when you open your
heart of kindness to others, you will see how much more
beautiful your life is, the story goes.
- One day,
there was an old beggar with ragged clothes, messy hair, and
an unpleasant odor that stopped in front of a bustling pastry
shop. The shoppers standing next to them all covered their
noses, frowned, and looked extremely annoyed at the old man.
- Old man, go
away! Go now!
took out some dirty change and said:
- I came to
buy cakes! Which type is the smallest?
the owner of the pastry shop walked out, cheerfully took out a
beautiful little cake from the glass cabinet, and gave it to
the beggar. Then he bowed deeply and said:
- Thank you
for patronizing your purchase! Welcome back next time!
took the cake from the owner, his face was full of horror,
turned and left the bakery. Maybe never in his life had he
been treated with such respect!
owner's grandson witnessed the whole incident, was very
puzzled, and asked:
Why are you so welcoming to that filthy beggar?
The owner of
the bakery smiled gently, looked at his grandson, and said:
- Even if he
is a beggar, he is still our customer. Came to buy cakes from
our shop, and he did not regret spending the hard-earned
money. If I did not serve him myself, how could that beggar's
favor be worthy of us?
grandson asked again:
- Then why are
you still taking the beggar's money?
smiled and replied.
- Today, he
came here as a guest, not to beg you! Of course, we have to
respect him! If I didn't take the money, would we have
Make sure you
keep this in mind, respect each customer no matter who they
are, even if it's a beggar. Because everything we have today
is brought by customers. The boy nodded after listening,
The owner of
that bakery is the grandfather of Japanese billionaire
Yoshiaki Tsutsumi. Billionaire Tsutsumi once said:
- That year,
every gesture my grandfather toward that beggar was engraved
in my mind.
Tsutsumi repeated this story to his employees many times so
that they could learn to respect customers
Respect is not
a common courtesy to please someone, it comes from
understanding, appreciating and empathizing, respecting each
other. It is also a noble love, giving and not expecting to
receive. You respect someone not because you want to gain
something from them. Simply because you appreciate them.
people, you treat each other with courtesy, not competition or
struggle. Respect is often accompanied by kindness, tolerance,
and patience. People who respect others will also have good
fortune, go around the world, and still be loved. Therefore,
His Holiness Meng-Tzu once said:
- If you love
people, people will love you back; if you respect people,
people will respect you back.
respecting others is also respecting yourself, which is also
In short, once
the heart of kindness has been aroused, there will be no
difficulties in life, because the heart is one meter wide, and
the road will be one mile wide. Open your heart to others, you
will see how much more beautiful your life is. The boss knows
how to respect the subordinates, and the employees, the
company is prosperous, and the heart is united. Traders who
know how to respect customers will do business smoothly. To
respect even your own enemies is a kind of courage, a kind of
wisdom. So Confucius said:
- What you
don't want, don't do it to others
can be considered the most important point of the virtue of
respect that I am talking about here. Each person has a
different life arranged, a separate path must be taken by you.
Never force what you want on someone else's body. Kindness,
Tolerance, Peace, and mutual respect are the noblest art of
you can't be tolerant, patient, and respectful of others, try
the following three ways:
differences, tolerant, and generous with others.
your own behavior so that both are winners.
3- Can move
forward or backward, point out the opponent's flaws with
compassion, and generosity, don't be too strict, or arrogant,
and look down on others.
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