DHARMA IN EVERYDAY LIFE
- FOUR COMMON TYPES OF PEOPLE
By Nhat Quan
the Pali Canons, the Buddha often mentioned four types of
people living in the world:
Self-torture class, dedicated to self-torture.
torturing people, dedicated to tormenting people.
- Rank both
self-torture, dedicated to self-torment, both torturing
people, and dedicated to tormenting others.
- Rank does
not self-harm, does not focus on self-harm; neither do
people suffer nor do they focus on hurting people.
four types of people above, everywhere, and in every
country. Although the teachings are nearly two thousand and
six hundred years old, they have passed through countless
countries and undergone many changes. But when you reread
the canon of the Buddha's teachings, you will be amazed and
amused by the humorous spirit of the Buddha, a transcendent
psychologist. Although the language of the world has
changed, after nearly 26 centuries, the spirit and language
that the Buddha used are still very new and worth searching
for. You consider the four types of people that the Buddha
alluded to, according to today's psychoanalytic science:
I- The first
class is self-tormenting
* People in
In the life
of every human being, whether in the past or present, there
is always joy, anger, love, and hate mixed together.
Therefore, no one from birth to death has lived in peace and
happiness without suffering once or vice versa. This is a
law of human development. In other words, happiness or
suffering is up to each person to feel.
always think you are miserable, you can never be happy.
Because in your eyes, life is just a sea of suffering and
you will always be stuck in that painful thought. This is
the scariest way to self-harm.
The cause of
suffering comes from the fact that some people always tell
themselves to live this way or to live that way to please
everyone. Following the wishes of others, while ignoring
your own feelings, you are sure to come to a point where you
will feel tired and exhausted. This is seen as a way of
self-torture by some people.
that happiness or suffering comes from your thoughts. So you
have to be content with reality and keep your mind at ease.
This suffering also comes from the greed of some people. The
greediest human being is not the greed of money or
possessions, but the self-righteousness of yourself and
forcing others to obey you.
if your wife tells you all the time that you have to do
this, that, or that your children have to listen to what
your wife has to say, until, when faced with resistance from
you or your children, your wife will feel uncomfortable.
From there was born whining, nagging her husband and
children. At this time, her mind will never be at peace,
irritable, and sometimes create discord with those around
her. Over time, she became a different person than before.
This is like your wife buying poison to drink herself.
If you are
stuck in a vicious circle, buying your own lanyard, first of
all, you have to change your mind and be more loving. Of
course, taking care of people is a good human quality, but
to take care of people, you have to take care of yourself
first. That is, to keep the spirit always happy, and
comfortable and look at life more simply, not too heavy.
Happiness or suffering comes from within the mind, not far
world, no one is perfect. Therefore, comparisons should not
be made because all comparisons are lame. Be content with
what you have. Do not desire too high so that the mind is
always peaceful and serene.
goals that you strive for yourself, the efforts, the work
you do... is not outside the desire towards happiness.
However, sometimes you try so hard to find happiness
inadvertently that you sink deeper into unhappiness, and the
feeling of self-torture torments you. The following signs
will indicate that you are hurting yourself.
on the critics
the internet is popular, so people are free to add or remove
opinions and criticize and condemn those they don't like.
And willing to flatter those who pay them. So if you are a
victim of this game, you should keep your mind calm and
stand being lonely
Your life is
not always peaceful and happy with everyone. But you always
want to be happy and find it difficult to accept loneliness.
also does not mean being alone but locking yourself in with
negative thoughts, doubts, and deadlocks in life. There are
people who, even though they are with the person they love,
are still extremely lonely. Simply because you do not find
the same in your soul. But you should also remember that
loneliness is just moments when you face yourself, to learn
how to pick yourself up and find a solution.
were born, you were each created with different shapes and
forms. Your body is a priceless gift that your parents gave
and nurtured. So, why don't you respect yourself?
spend a huge amount of money to refurbish their beauty by
lengthening their legs, lifting their noses, or cutting
their faces. There is no shame in your body being imperfect.
This gift needs to be cherished and cared for more. You are
most beautiful when you are yourself.
4- Do not
Why do you
work all the time, but forever not rich? Why are you so
beautiful that you can't find a rich man but have to marry a
lowly civil servant? Why is that family rich while yours is
poor?... When you feel unsatisfied with something, you
- Life is so
unfair! Why am I doing my best and still not getting any
know that each person has a life, ability, fate, and
arrangement. Life is like that, there are always injustices,
but if you only see one-sidedly like that, you are not fair
to your own life.
sometimes makes you unhappy, but also brings you happiness
and smiles. There is a collision, there is unhappiness,
there is resentment, you will understand happiness and know
how to get it back. When you have experienced happiness, you
will see how beautiful and worth living life is and you will
no longer make yourself miserable.
Cultivators of pagan religion
Is the type
of person who carries a mental illness called self-torture.
The ascetic practice of the ascetic does not lead to
liberation but still clings to that asceticism. The Buddha
called the precept of the forbidden. These ascetics set
forth many of the monstrous precepts so recounted in the
Pali Canon, brimming with witty humor, such as:
hands clean (doesn't wash hands),
- Going for
alms, refusing to step forward,
- Do not
accept food where there are standing dogs, flying flies,
- Do not
accept food from the mouth of the pot, the mouth of the pan,
- Do not
accept food at the doorstep, at the rice mill,
those self-disciplined people think that the harder it is to
keep the precepts, the more blessings they will get, so you
are not surprised that in the Buddha's time there were
practice unethical conduct, that is to live like a dog or
like an ox for a long time with the belief that because of
that conduct after death they will be reborn in heaven.
is a practitioner of this type who came to the Blessed One
and asked what the future fate of a perfect ascetic would
replied: Those who practice virtue in a perfect way will be
born in the dog realm. If you practice virtuously with the
belief that you will be born in heaven, then in the future
there will be two possibilities:
- One is to
be born as a dog if you practice virtue perfectly,
- The second
is to be reborn in hell if you practice incompletely (being
born in hell due to anger, because you think that thanks to
good conduct you will be born in heaven, but in fact, it is
think that practitioners are like the way a buffalo or a dog
lives. This way of life was only present in those ancient
primitive times, but what is it in today's civilization? But
no, it still exists although in a slightly different form,
although it does not have the hairs and horns to look like a
buffalo like a dog, people today do more strange things than
buffalo, greedily gnawing on prey more persistent than these
second class of causing suffering to others:
love to cause suffering to people and animals. This class is
not lacking in the world, past, and present. In Vietnam,
during the Le dynasty, King Le Long Dinh, because of his
insatiable passion for sex, contracted a disease that he
could not sit. So every time he came to court, he could not
sit but just lie down, so it was called "King Le lying in
court". This King liked to let people put sugarcane on the
monks' heads to peel the bark. Every time the knife fell,
hitting the monks' heads and bleeding, the King laughed and
those who torment others must also include some people who
practice evil occupations such as:
- Make a
living as a butcher,
Manufacture and trade in weapons,
Trafficking in cigars, drugs...and much more
third class of self-harm & others' suffering:
This is the
type of person who has both diseases mentioned above.
the Kandaraha Sutra (Majjhima Nikaya 2, p.334) describing
kings who made sacrifices to gods:
- There is a
king who shaved off his hair and beard, put on coarse
leather, oiled his whole body, scratched his back with a
deer horn, and entered the lecture hall with his eldest wife
and a brahmin priest. Then he lay down in the middle of the
earth with a slice of grass.
lives with milk from the udder of a cow and has a calf of
the same color, the first wife lives with milk from the
second udder, and the sacrificial brahmin lives with the
milk from the third udder. The milk from the fourth breast
is used for the god of fire sacrifice. The calf lives with
what is left of it, that is, there is nothing left. The king
ordered the killing of countless bulls, cows, calves, goats,
and sheep for sacrifice, and cut down countless trees to
make places for sacrifices. The servants were afraid of
being beaten with a stick, afraid of danger, so they didn't
dare to say anything, so they just cried and did the work...
That's a way of making themselves miserable and making
ordinary life, this third class is often seen in cases of
unjust family gatherings such as:
spouses, and children... are not compatible but still have
to live together, can't be apart because they need to make
themselves miserable and make each other miserable. And
through that when a man or a woman is jealous, it's
terrible. That jealousy, maybe because of too much love,
wanting to protect family happiness, or instinctively
wanting to own a husband or wife.
have fallen into a state of jealousy, you always live in
fear, and restlessness, and even make the other person
suffer. Because of jealousy, women lose faith in their
husbands, and because of jealousy, men lose faith in their
wives, and marriage without trust cannot be happy. Instead
of being at ease and living peacefully, then jealousy always
doesn't let your mind be at peace. Day and night only
- What is
your husband or wife doing, where is your wife or husband,
are your wife or husband going with any woman or man?
creating a habit of suspicion, uncontrollable, because of
controlling husband or wife, losing sleep and eating, is
that worth it? Instead of being unreasonably jealous, it is
best to worry about beauty, shopping is a better way to keep
a husband or wife. If you spend your whole life being
jealous, then what is happiness? People have not stolen your
husband or wife, you have already made your husband or wife
bored with you. Turned out:
each other is ten times as much as hating each other.
hurts you and others. If you are a person who is often
angry, you bring that stupidity to hurt you and others.
Forgive, not for others, but for yourself. Forgiveness is
freeing yourself from anger and sadness in your heart.
who annoys you may be ecstatic because they know nothing!
While you are sitting here, holding anger in your heart and
then losing sleep and eating. Then you make yourself
miserable, is it extremely stupid?
spending time resenting someone, take the time to care for
the people who deserve your love. Smile and you will find
life funny. And the foolish actions of others are also funny
you will see that life still has many people for you to
love, life has many things for you to care about.
- Except for
yourself, no one can take away the joy and serenity in your
anything when you're angry.
- Grief and
suffering are created by craving and come into existence
suffering, you often blame external factors, blame
circumstances: Because this person makes you miserable, that
person makes you miserable, family situation, social
situation, etc. But why is it that some people live in good
circumstances but their minds are still suffering, while
some people live in bad situations but their minds are still
happy? In the same situation, people who are happy have less
suffering, on the contrary, people who suffer more are happy
less. From time immemorial until now, you have always sought
to influence the world, and change circumstances, but no one
has been completely happy and completely satisfied in this
said, because of ignorance and affliction, you have to
suffer. Because you are not wise, misperceive, not true
about the dharmas, the nature of phenomena of things in
life. You do not understand causality, from which arise the
afflictions of greed, hatred, delusion, pride, doubt, and
wrong view, which lead to suffering. There is folk jokes
that are worth pondering over:
- There was
a rich man who went to celebrate his death anniversary at a
close friend's house. After eating and drinking, seeing that
the cakes are so delicious, he wanted to bring them home to
eat again, but he was afraid that his friends would think he
was a glutton. He then took some cakes and gave them to the
servant, then winked, signaling the servant to bring them
home for him. The servant did not understand what he meant,
thought he had given it to him, and the servant ate it all.
So angry, on the way home, the rich man went ahead, and the
servant trailed behind. The rich man became angrier and
angrier, knocking the servant's head and scolding:
- I'm not a
prisoner that you escorted behind.
heard his master's scolding and went up to go along with
him. The rich man shouted again:
- You and I
are not equal friends, but you dare to go on an equal
footing with me?
was so afraid that he quickly walked forward. The rich man
kicked his ass again and scolded:
- Are you,
my father, why are you walking in front of me?
was confused, not knowing the right way to go, so he folded
his arms and said:
- Can you
teach me how to walk?
time, the fire in the rich man's heart flared up:
- Where's my
Was the rich
man's behavior like that because the servant did not go
properly or because the servant ate his cake?
It is clear
to everyone that the rich man was greedy for food and was
born with hatred, so he acted like that.
A folk tale,
but it's worth thinking about. Sometimes you don't see the
source of the afflictions and sufferings in your mind such
as anger, dissatisfaction, resentment, worry, sadness, etc.
You keep blaming this and that, blaming this and that, you
rarely see your responsibility. Because of greed, hatred,
delusion, self-esteem or low self-esteem, self-love,
selfishness, etc., you have an attitude, a way of behaving,
a lifestyle that is not good or beautiful, or you make
yourself miserable. , but you don't see it.
If you look
at things, or look at others with a discriminating, jealous,
envious mind, with a mind full of prejudice and anger, then
you don't see the truth, and don't know, or understand what
you're seeing. , listening, or in contact:
- If you
look at other people with such a dirty mind, you see
everyone as ugly and hateful, everyone makes mistakes,
everyone is stupid even though they are actually cute, they
have many lovely points, they have many good things for you
If you look
at others with a mind:
- Greed for
beauty when you see people beautiful so you fall in love,
- Greed for
wealth when you see people rich, you like to be close
- With a
selfish mind, favoring relatives and relatives, whoever is
friends with you should you love and respect them, you will
not see their bad.
do not clearly see the nature of people and things, you have
wrong thoughts and actions. Because you don't know who you
are, don't know your mind, you have wrong thoughts and
actions, causing suffering to you and others.
many people who complain because they are poor, so they
suffer, but when they have the opportunity to rise up thanks
to the help of others to become rich and well off, they also
have no joy and happiness, even more miserable. Is it
because of God? Is it by fate? All of them are not.
don't understand your mind, because you don't see the source
of your suffering, you blame others, blame gods, blame fate.
When do you still have habits like:
laziness, enjoyment, gambling, drinking, smoking, lust...
So no matter
where you go, you are still poor and still miserable; Sooner
or later you will also fall into a deadlock, and go
bankrupt. At that time, to run away, defend yourself, or
because you don't understand, you think that it is in
heaven, in gods, in the year of age, in luck, in bad luck,
in this and that...
fourth class does not torment oneself, does not make others
the healthy people who do not have the mental illnesses
mentioned above. You live without lust, pure roots, peaceful
feeling... You will see attachment, and human lust as a
dangerous disease, like a wound, like a burning pit, and
will learn to live life rescue.
guarding the senses, controlling the causes that cause
craving, grief, compassion, and unwholesome states to arise.
When you walk, stand, lie down, sit, wake up, sleep, speak,
and be silent, you are all aware…” (Kandaraha Sutra). To
accomplish mindfulness and awareness, you choose a quiet
place to practice.
In short, of
the four classes of people you often meet, the fourth we
don't discuss, and the remaining three people, in life,
everyone pursues happiness, fame, love ...., but most only
know rush to earn money, fame and profit, because they think
that these things can bring happiness. So, when you're
young, you keep rushing to earn money despite tricks to
compete for fame and gain, make yourself miserable, and make
people miserable, then when you're old, you pour it all out
to cure diseases. A lifetime of making money, earning fame,
making profits, and sometimes just a few treatments, and
it's all gone. Due to such a misleading goal setting, you
have many actions that make you, your family and those
around you suffer. Working hard to earn money consumes
health, causes hatred, and anger; sad when they fail, live
freely when they succeed… destroy the environment; killing
living beings ... these things cause consequences when you
get old, get sick, have an accident, have many obstacles in
grow clean vegetables to eat, while vegetables sprayed with
growth spray to sell until they have cancer, they still
wonder why they eat clean vegetables and still get sick. The
disease comes from the evil mind but from nowhere else.
Illness is that you are paying for the evil karma you have
caused. Illness is also caused by malice, an unsettled soul,
an overworked body, anger, affliction, a lack of morality,
and by lack of love for the life of all living beings.
developed the society, the more comfortable it is, thinking
that people will be happier. But just look around you and
see, you are jostling, doing bad things, harming each other
just for the sake of fame, profit, money... That's because
you don't understand the path of cause and effect. You
haven't seen it yet, so you don't know fear. Therefore, the
more suffering. And what you lack most now is the morality
of being a human being, love, and forgiveness.
morality can balance material and spiritual, making you live
happily and peacefully. That morality is that your daily
actions do not hurt yourself or others.
You all have
greed: greed for money, material things, fame, lust, greed
for food, etc. Greed is an act of self-harm. Because of
their greedy nature, few see their sins.
So you have
to learn to have a clear view of everything, and from there
you can practice every day. In fact, everything around you
is still the same. Outside is still crowded, and traffic
jams. Going to the office still makes you unhappy. Returning
home, husband and children or wife and children go early or
come back late, many things are frustrating...
But when you
have a changed perspective, love, forgive and share more, it
will make you not angry anymore, everything will be light,
and your heart will be calm and peaceful.
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