DHARMA IN EVERYDAY LIFE
- THE BENEFITS OF TOLERANCE
By Nhat Quan
another style of humility, always respecting the opinions of
others. Each person in society has a different personality
and outlook on the world. The ancient sages respected the
views of others, but the interests of others first in
everything, gladly accepted their opinions, and left good
examples for posterity.
also opening one's heart, forgiving someone's mistakes, and
accepting the mistakes others have made. But that doesn't
mean that you can't distinguish right from wrong, but rather
to convert them, giving them more opportunities to correct
and repent. That is the greatest motivation for them to
repent and find the right path. That's why there is an old
- Use virtue
to treat people.
virtue is impartial, trustworthy, and all-encompassing. The
more virtue, the greater the endurance and the greater the
tolerance. As the French philosopher Voltaire (1694-1778)
is the only medicine to cure the mistakes that are
corrupting people throughout the universe.
times to the present, from East to West, tolerance is a
treasure throughout all human relationships. Thanks to it,
you become rich in peace of mind. Thanks to it, you know how
great forgiveness is. Tolerance irrigates your soul out of
calculations, envy, and narrow-mindedness, and fosters
nobility. Therefore, people with noble morals will not
attach importance to benefits, only know how to give without
receiving in return, always loving and willing to tolerate.
That is the source of happiness.
often compared a person with tolerance, that person's mind
is like a great ocean, because the great ocean has the
ability to absorb water from hundreds of rivers, a noble
person is tolerant even of enemies. The compassionate Buddha
gave people the most precious and precious treasure in the
world when he taught that:
asset in life is tolerance.
also advised their descendants:
- A man who
has no enemies is worthy.
should not hold grudges,
To show you
how powerful the benefits of tolerance are. In the
traditional culture of Meditation Door from ancient times to
the present, tolerance is a kind of carefree style, showing
the vastness of the heart. It is also a kind of wisdom and
realm of moral cultivation, originating from the inner
kindness, compassion, and humanity of people.
regard, Lao Tzu also once said:
why the sea is the king of hundreds of rivers and thousands
of streams is that the sea is at a low place.
regard, Lao Tzu teaches that being a human being is to be
humble. He said that if a person of high position knows how
to be humble, he or she will bring together the hearts of
all people, just like rivers and seas, because at a low
place, water from every crevice flows down.
also taught that:
- A thought
that changes the situation.
the Buddha said that is because in the human mind there are
often evil thoughts, good thoughts, and tolerance, but only
a compassionate heart is able to tolerate all things. The
more generous your heart, the larger the world that you can
world, everyone who accomplishes great things must have a
heart as vast as the ocean. Water is considered a symbol of
great tolerance, whether it is grace or resentment, right or
wrong, whether it is a drop of water in a large river or a
small stream. Mr. Lam Tac Tu was a mandarin officer
also a general of the Qing dynasty, He once said:
the sea can accommodate hundreds to thousands of rivers, it
becomes large. The cliffs stand for thousands of miles
because they know how to absorb millions of thousands of
pebbles, sand, and rocks.
This is also
about the wisdom of tolerance. The reason the sea is vast,
without shore, without limits, without limits is that it
does not refuse any drop of water. The reason the mountain
can stand tall is that it doesn't refuse even a grain of
sand or a small rock. That's why the ancients used to say:
- As a human
being, no one is perfect, everyone makes mistakes at least
once in their life
If you cannot treat each other with forgiveness and
tolerance, you will surely find this life full of sorrow.
The ancients said:
- Some people are stupid to the extreme, but the vices of
others can be listed very clearly and systematically. He/she
talks about other people's scandals, he is unrelenting and
has a good article, but when it comes to his/her own
business, he is confused, haphazard, careless, unable to
distinguish clearly, and his/her mistakes are not good care,
even concealing mistakes.
This is caused by a bad mind that instigates and causes that
person to do wrong things, and always forgives
himself/herself, but knows how to condemn others. As for the
intelligent and understanding person, instead of complaining
to others, he/she blames himself/herself, using his heart to
forgive himself/herself to forgive others. A person can use
his/her mind to blame others to blame himself/herself, that
is, to reflect, to return to seek in himself/herself, to use
tolerance and forgiveness for himself/herself, to tolerantly
forgive others, and to be able to deal with Noble:
- What you don't like, don't do to others.
Those who see the righteous work bravely stand up to
shoulder it. If he can do that, then this type of person can
do anything, including the position of a sage.
For the sake of tolerance, the ancients focused on
cultivating the mind and nurturing nature, always focusing
on checking themselves, and at the same time being able to
use tolerance to forgive the shortcomings of others. Not
only can your own virtue be enhanced, but it can also
inspire others. Because really, no one in the world is
perfect. There are many people who are virtuous on one side,
but on the other hand, make a lot of mistakes. It can be
said that anyone can make mistakes in life. Therefore, if
you cannot tolerate them, you will only find this life full
of unpleasant things.
There are people who always see themselves as right, while
others are wrong. Whenever there is a conflict, they blame
others, treating each other as their enemy. Thus, it is very
likely that you will create unwholesome predestined
relationships, causing enmity and hatred. When you cannot be
tolerant, forgiving, and kind to others, of course, it is
difficult for others to be tolerant and forgiving to you.
But anyway, remember:
- Tolerating others is to create blessings for yourself
So the Buddha always reminded:
- A life of accumulating wealth is not equal to doing good
deeds and accumulating blessings.
Because there is no blessing, nothing will be done, no one
will give you if you go to beg. Then the question is how to
accumulate blessings for yourself?
The ancients believed that tolerance and generosity were
qualities of a gentleman. A tolerant person has a heart that
is truly like the ocean, able to collect water from
thousands of rivers. They help others out of chivalry and
kindness without asking for anything in return. Even if you
don't ask for revenge, if you have tolerance, you will have
blessings. That is called:
- Whatever you sow, you will reap.
Help others in trouble, when you are in trouble, you will
definitely be rewarded. Just as the sea accepts hundreds of
rivers and becomes vast, so as a human, learn to tolerate
others, just as the sea accepts turbid or clear water from
streams. The reason the sea is vast, without shore, without
limits, without limits is that it does not refuse any drop
of water. The reason the mountain can stand tall is that it
doesn't refuse any small stone. So as a human, learn to be
tolerant like the sea! Because the sea has very good
properties that everyone loves the sea:
- The first feature is that the sea has gentle sandy beaches
that take you slowly into the water, making it very easy to
drop boats and pull nets.
- The second feature is that the sea is always in place, the
sea never moves. If you want to go to the sea, you know the
direction to go.
- The third feature is that the sea does not accept dead
bodies. When there is a dead body, the sea always pushes it
to the beach.
- The fourth feature is that the sea accepts the water of
all rivers, whether it is the Ganga, the Yamuna, the
Aciravati, the Sarabhu, or the Mahi. Any river that reaches
the sea will also give up its own name to bear the same name
as the sea.
The fifth feature is that although thousands of rivers
continuously pour water into the sea day and night, the sea
does not sometimes empty when it is full.
The sixth feature is that seawater is salty everywhere.
- The seventh feature is that in the seabed there are many
kinds of corals, pearls, and precious gems.
- The eighth feature is that the sea is home to millions of
species of living things, including very large species
hundreds of miles long, and species as small as needles or
In the direction of expressing the benefits of tolerance,
also from the eight characteristics of the sea that the
Buddha taught that:
there are times when the sea has sloping sandbanks from high
to low that can take you slowly into the water, making it
easy to put the boat in the water and pull the net, then so
is the Dharma. In this Dharma, people can practice from easy
to difficult, from low to high, and from shallow to deep.
The Dharma is open to all people of all kinds of faculties.
Anyone can enter the Dharma door. Whether you are children,
the elderly, the intellectuals, the uneducated... all of
them find the right spiritual discipline for you in this
there is a time when the sea always stays in place but does
not move to another place, does not sweep away villages and
cities, then so is the Dharma. The principles of the Dharma
have always remained the same, and the precepts of those who
receive and uphold the Dharma have been clearly established.
Where there is study and practice in accordance with those
principles and precepts, there is the right Dharma, which
cannot be wrong.
- Third, if
there is a time when the sea never tolerates a dead body in
its lap, so will the Dharma. The Dharma does not tolerate
ignorance, laziness, and transgressing actions. A person who
does not cultivate in a monastic community cannot stay for
long in the community. That person will sooner or later be
kicked out of the community and the dharma.
there is a time when the sea accepts the waters of all
rivers without discrimination, so will the Dharma. From any
of the four social classes, everyone is equally welcome into
this dharma. When the waters of rivers flow into the sea,
they leave behind them the name of the particular river and
begin to take the name of the sea. Likewise, those who
entered the Buddha's path no longer brought with them their
caste, lineage, and social status, but were all collectively
called mendicants, or Buddhists.
there is a time when the sea neither diminishes nor fills
up, even though hundreds of rivers and thousands of streams
and rivers continue to flow into the sea night and day, the
same is true of the Dharma. The Dharma is the right Dharma,
not because many people follow it, but it is the right
Dharma, not because few people follow it, but the Dharma is
not the right Dharma. Popularity or decadence do not judge
the truth of this dharma.
- Sixth, if
there is a time when seawater everywhere has only one taste,
salty, then so is the Dharma. Although the Dharma is
presented in many ways, even though there are hundreds or
thousands of Dharma doors, the true Dharma has only one
taste, that is the taste of liberation. Without the ability
to liberate, it is not the right Dharma.
it is said that in the seabed there are countless kinds of
corals, mother-of-pearl, and precious gems, so is the
Dharma. In the Dharma, we have many wonderful and precious
Dharma doors such as the Four Noble Truths, the Four Right
Efforts, the Four Perfection of Desires, the Five Roots, the
Five Powers, the Seven Bodhi, and the Eight Right Paths.
there is a time when the sea is a comfortable refuge for
millions of living things, including animals as small as a
grain of sand, and there are species as large as hundreds of
miles long, then so is the Dharma. In our Dharma, a child or
an uneducated person, all sections of society still have the
opportunity to practice and study comfortably. In the
Dharma, great people have great positions like bodhisattvas
and have the opportunity to practice and propagate in a
spacious environment. In the dharma, there are also
countless beings who have attained stream-entry,
once-returner, non-return, and arahantship.
cause and effect, although it is the natural law of the
universe, is also the right of human beings. It is because
of this law that can be tolerated that you can achieve great
seas and high mountains, also improve the relationship
between people and people, and go together to achieve great
careers. To save for thousands of generations the works of
building and defending the country of heroes past and
present. So tolerance is also a kind of mettle and a kind of
wisdom. Tolerance is a kind of cultivation and also a kind
of high spiritual realm. Taiwanese writer Lam Thanh Huyen
once told a story about the tolerance of the ancients as
Once upon a
time, there was a monk who practiced at a temple on a
mountain. One night, he was walking in the woods. Under the
moonlight, he suddenly realized something, so he was very
happy in his heart. He immediately returned to the temple
with joy. But as soon as he got to the temple, he discovered
a thief came to the temple to steal things.
after searching for a while, did not find anything to take.
He had just returned to meet the monk. In fact, the monk
stood silently waiting outside the door for a long time
without entering because he did not want to alarm the thief.
He knew early on that the thief wouldn't be able to find
anything to take, so he took off his jacket and held it in
had just gone out the door when he saw that the monk had
been standing there since when, while the thief was still
amazed, the monk said:
- You had to
come from afar to visit me, anyway, I can't let you leave
empty-handed. The night is cold, you should put on this
shirt and go!
this, the monk immediately gave his robe to the thief. The
thief didn't know what to do, so he bowed his head and left.
master watched the thief walk under the moon and disappear
into the forest, and exclaimed:
- Pitiful! I
just wish I could give him a bright moon!
watched the thief disappear and went into the room to
day, the monk found his coat neatly left outside the door,
and his heart swelled with emotion. He happily said to
- I finally
gave him a bright moon.
master's implication tells you that because of his mercy,
the thief woke up, his mind was bright, there was no hatred
and no intention to appropriate, that's why the thief
brought the shirt respectfully returned.
By the way,
a famous poet once said:
- A great
man has two hearts: a bleeding heart and a generous heart.
scriptures also say:
- Just one
thought can change the situation. So, just a sentence, a
small action, or just a smile is enough to make bad people
turn towards good.
- Gold is
not pure, no one is perfect.
faced with other people's mistakes, if you stay in your
heart and find a way on responding, it will only make your
feelings worse. Instead of letting hatred gnaw at your mind,
you can only reduce suffering by being tolerant of
everything, so you will be calm and free. However, you must
also know that tolerance is not about covering up, and
tolerating other people's mistakes, but letting others make
mistakes, but about creating a good opportunity for others
to correct. There are times when tolerance brings a thousand
times better results than punishment. This is also the
advice and education of the ancient sages. And in modern
times, the French writer Victor Hugo once said:
largest thing in the world is the ocean, but the bigger
thing than the ocean is the sky. But what is bigger than the
sky is the human heart.
The wide sea
can tolerate the purest drops of water, and can also
tolerate the dirtiest drops. That's why it became so vast,
without a shore. The bright moon can illuminate the dark
places of rivers and mountains, and can also shine on the
whole earth, without criticizing anyone. As a human being,
you must both tolerate good and bad things, and also have to
tolerate yourself, others, and all things in the world in
order to achieve a perfect life.
know that hundreds of rivers also flow to the sea,
harmonizing the salty taste of the ocean; All dharmas pour
into the ocean of wisdom, pure one liberated. The teachings
of the Buddha were recorded in the Tripitaka, becoming one
of mankind's greatest treasures of wisdom.
teaching has passed for nearly 26 centuries, when Buddhism
was spread widely throughout the five continents, Buddhism
was also influenced by a large amount from one culture to
another. Since then, Buddhism has developed with religious
symbols, ritual forms, and even the spiritual practices of
the retreats in each place.
Although Buddhism is diversified in form and content of
practice through many methods, the characteristics and
benefits of tolerance do not change because of that.
Medicine does not matter whether it is expensive or cheap,
if it is cured, it is good medicine. The Dharma door does
not judge good or bad, if it brings people out of birth and
death, it is wonderful dharma. Culture does not matter which
country it is, but knowing the benefits of tolerance and
thoroughly implementing it, that culture is also considered
rich and diverse. A lifetime of appearances to teach
sentient beings of the Master has only the sole purpose that
He wants all sentient beings to be freed from samsara.
Look closely, Buddhism is a religion built on the foundation
of intelligence, science, true understanding, and tolerance.
All forms of worship are directed at the divine with
specific music ceremonies of each nation in general and
religion in particular, it is impossible to say which is
right or which is wrong. Because if it is true for one
person, it will be wrong for another and vice versa. But the
ethics of tolerance goes beyond those common senses.
The Buddha is a great teacher of all mankind, so his
teachings are not only aimed at a few people or a people in
a particular country but at everyone. Therefore, in the
teachings of the Buddha, you will find adaptations for all
types of people, of all ages, making it possible for
everyone to accept and follow.
All people in society, in the human world in general, on the
way to abandon the false to find the truth, are like a boat
sailing on the sea, that is, they must face many
difficulties, hardships, and trials challenge. But when the
boat has clearly determined the direction and knows exactly
where the shore is, where the destination is, it only
depends on your own efforts and talents.
Buddhists too, once you have a firm belief in the Three
Jewels, in yourself, have clearly seen the goal, by diligent
effort and thorough implementation of the vow of tolerance
will quickly come true achieve your ideals. If your faith is
not firm or believes without wisdom, then that belief is
easily shaken by the influence of circumstances or heresy
that drags you away. The suffering of a donkey, a camel
carrying a heavy load is not yet suffering, the greatest
suffering of man is not knowing which way to go, and where
The Buddha taught that choosing a spiritual
discipline is the first principle. The purpose of studying
Buddhism is to leave suffering and be happy, that is, to
quickly leave the sea of suffering, and to achieve
ultimate joy and complete joy. In order to do that, you must
choose the right practice in accordance with;
- Your character
- Your level
- Your living situation
- Your wish
Buddha said that although there are many methods of
cultivation, the main purpose is only the word liberation,
just like the water of hundred rivers also returns to the
sea. That is, how do you not be affected by defilements, or
So you have to choose the right practice for you, once you
have chosen the right practice for you, you should apply it
in your daily life to be freed from your many lifetimes of
karma, for a peaceful life...
I would like to emphasize, that any method, as long as you
apply it in your daily life, is enough to make you peaceful
and relaxed, so you should not be attached to any method at
all. That's all, I think it's enough to help you go far on
the path of enlightenment and liberation. That's why Buddha
- Dharma practice is like a raft to cross the river, not to
- The Dharma is still to be abandoned, what's more, it's not
- The Dharma is like a finger pointing to the moon. If you
want to see the moon, you must know how to lean on your
finger just to see the moon. But absolutely the finger is
not the moon.
Therefore, all spiritual practices aim to show the truth of
Buddhism, like a finger pointing to the moon. The finger is
a means of reaching the moon, and the moon represents the
light of truth. The ultimate goal of a cultivator is to end
suffering and attain peace and liberation.
In short, in the Buddhist scriptures, there are many
different methods of practice, suitable for each class of
people and the national identity of each country. As just
now, what I suggest to you through that is the benefit of:
- Tolerant heart
- Wish for tolerance
The heart is like the sea...
It is also
possible that the attitude of tolerance is also considered a
spiritual practice. Perhaps, it is because of this richness
and diversity that Buddhism brings benefits to everyone.
When it comes to Buddhist practices such as a clear and cool
stream, just taking small sips can help you dispel your
burning thirst. So don't be like a fool just because you see
too much spring water and refuse to drink it!
Buddhist scriptures, there is a story that the Buddha used
to illustrate the disciples' access to the Dharma and his
There was a
man who was thirsty and found a cool stream. But he kept
kneeling by the stream without taking a sip of water. When
everyone found it strange, they asked why, and he replied:
spring water is too much, I can't drink it all. That's why I
don't drink any drop of water.
heard that laughed at his stupidity. When you study Buddhist
scriptures or practice your favorite methods, you should
also keep this parable in mind, so as not to become a fool
like the thirsty man in this story.
choosing a practice that works best for you, and practicing
diligently is sure to bring benefits. If you just look at it
without practicing it yourself, you will be like that stupid
person, even staying by the stream can't quench your thirst.
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