When born in the world, each good or bad person is
different. Everyone's current life is not the same as
anyone else, and how long or short life is nobody known.
According to the Buddhist learner's points of view, the
present life is due to the karma or blessings of the past,
so you can not choose, but only depending on the situation
of the current circumstances to suffer or change, but life
in the future is due to you choose, and there are many
choices, such as:
- Happiness or Suffering
Happy or sad
Laugh or cry
Give or receive
Follow or give up
Trust or doubt
Right or left
White or black
Once you have a choice, each of you goes on separate paths
that are suitable for only yourself. It is important to
focus on the path you take rather than trying to follow
the path of others.
You have the right to choose for yourself a future life
through your actions, decisions, and actions in your
current life. So, never let your life become boring and
mediocre on the sideline of your life. Choose for yourself
an active, active job to make miracles according to your
Baggage for a future life is like a road, but there are
many different types. There are long, short, straight,
curved, flat, or rocky roads, etc. Moreover, there are
countless turns on that road for you to decide to choose,
- Strive to become a celebrity,
- Rich or lazy to live in poverty
- The path to Victory and joy
- Cultivate the mind to nurture nature, to cultivate
Like any road in real life, life also has crossroads, dark
corners, or stop points, etc. But perhaps, the most
troublesome thing you may encounter is a crossroad,
intersection, falls five, falls six, etc. With many paths
for you to choose, while you're not sure where to go ...
Because of such difficult forward or backward situations,
many people have made serious mistakes in their life, even
turning them into different people. At times like these,
keep the following tips in mind that can help you make
informed life decisions.
1. Don't Believe in The So-called Absolute
You don't really know where the road will lead you until
you actually walk on it, and then you know that there is
This is one of the most important things you need to know
about life. No one can guarantee that fame and fortune
will guarantee a lifetime of happiness. The only thing you
can believe in is your wise decisions and how to act and
how you react to the situation that has happened and is
2. Better To Be A Fool
Life has always had a very complicated transformation. No
matter how knowledgeable or good you are, you don't have
the ability to anticipate everything. Even if you use your
experiences to measures or evaluate something, they can
completely change in the blink of an eye.
So, no matter what happens, you should also maintain a
humble attitude and courageously acknowledge yourself as a
fool before the ever-changing transformation of the
creator, so that you can learn more and continue to go
3. Don't be eager to win
This advice is especially helpful if you get into an
argument with one person or a group of people. Don't be
stubborn to defend your opinion, even if you know the
other person is making a mistake. Because once they have
refused to admit they were wrong, let them experience and
realize their mistake. The fact that you continue to argue
will make the two of you even more contradictory. Should
take harmony as precious, is to keep the interests of both
parties, it is a letting go. People who dare give up fame
are those who understand morality.
Usually, everyone wants to receive their own benefits.
Even so, many people never give in even a little. You must
understand that sometimes accepting loss is a blessing.
Even if you are deceived, do not worry, trust the Law of
Nature and society, you don't need to think about a plan
4. Don't Run For Fame and Benefit
Do not just want to enjoy happiness, peace, and wealth but
do not want to work hard. Because this desire will produce
other kinds of desires, which wear down your mind and
body. If you work hard, the more you appreciate what you
can do and the more can train yourself before the
temptation of life.
Be what you have, don't buy fame, don't try to run after
fame and benefit. Do not use money or sacrifice loved ones
to boost your advancement and wealth. Sometimes normal
life is a happy thing. Many people want it but can not get
Deceiving, buying fame, the greed of benefit will tire
your body and soul, cause trouble and sow the wind and you
will reap the storm.
5. Self-confident but not blind
Self-confidence in yourself is the power to have
everything. Even, if your self-confidence is a bit blind,
don't make yourself pessimistic, negative. You can
completely adjust that. Just a minute of losing faith, you
can lose everything. Should try to maintain health, rather
than fame and profit.
Health is a very important condition, maybe even the most
important thing in life. Even if you do not have a status
of luxury or wealth, if you are healthy, you have been and
are living well. But if you have fame, and fortune that
you lose your health, then you are have been and losing
How you want to live your life is up to you. The right to
choose and decide is yours. The important thing is to be
ready to face things wisely. You should define what you
want most, what is most important to you, then your life
will be meaningful
Only then can you feel that life in the present life is
meaningful, and you will cross your own boundaries. Let
you live the life of your choice. It is important that you
surpass yourself. Life is made up of your own way. Future
life is carved and painted by you. Your choice is the only
stop you can not turn around. If you do not assertive in
your life, then you are missing out on your chance to be a
Therefore, if you choose to give yourself a life of
happiness, peace, and freedom in your present and future
lives, then your mind will be relieved and peaceful. In
other words, cultivating the present life is to hold your
own destiny in the future life, not to surrender them to
the so-call destiny. Since fate is created by yourself,
just as you plant a tree, if you want it to grow, be
healthy, with its branches and leaves luxuriant, blossoms
and bear fruit, ... then you have to have a process of
appreciation, take care and nurture with all that you
have. Otherwise, the tree will die, just as happiness will
The way to cherish and nurture future lives according to
the Buddhist point of view is through the elements of
spiritual practice, charity, almsgiving, offering, etc.
Because you will be happy when you help someone who is
less fortunate, this will make you feel wonderful and
meaningful. When you give away, you don't think about
personal gain, but the joy and happiness you don't need to
chase after it naturally comes.
What you give is not necessarily material or money, but it
may be spiritual values. It may be as simple as showing a
sincere and warm smile, but it is enough to make someone
happy all day and also makes yourself happier.
Just decide, choose what you want, just feel safe
yourself, feel happy, you don't feel ashamed. On the
contrary, you are willing to hold your head up for your
A happy life simply means you are in control of your life,
and consciously, living in life always has rules. If you
get this, you may lose something. And when you lose
something, you will get something else in return. The
advantage of one always comes with a disadvantage of
another. There is nothing called perfect. So, you always
believe that no matter what decision you make, you will
get a worthy result.
The happiness or advantage you get come from the
sacrifices, and hardships you get. There is no such thing
as happiness or advantage that comes easily. So, don't
hesitate, worry about your decisions if it's wrong.
Because it doesn't matter, even the worst has its own
meaning in your life. Only through suffering and tasting
the bitterness will you really understand many things.
People often think life is complicated and confusing, but
in fact, life is just one of the options. So you should
choose, and live so that when you look back on your own
you will not regret it in the future. Most of you are
overestimating the cost of change and perhaps few people
will think about the price if it does not change. Success,
happiness or failure, suffering are all in your own
thoughts and decisions.
In your life, only you are the one who makes your choice
and decisions. Remember not to waste the options. Even
though it may be a mistake or a fall, you have to make a
choice as it is your last resort so that you will not
regret tomorrow because there is no choice today. Even
your choices in the eyes of others are stupid, crazy, or
silly, foolish. Even if it is the stumbling block, the
obstacle, please bravely decide because life is yours, not
that of others.
Each option brings the breath of life and also brings with
it the preferences you choose for yourself. Whether you
are happy or sad, suffering or pleasure is your choice. Be
strong, face your circumstances, and choose. Choosing to
let you live with yourself, not cheating. Only then will
your mind be at peace.
In many choices a human life has to go through, you are
not always right. But with the most important choice,
making an informed decision will give you the life you
want and vice versa. Those who have a progressive spirit,
enjoy doing good deeds. This makes more sense. Because you
have the future ahead of you, the sooner you make the
right choices make that future much clearer. So in order
for your future life selection to be successful, you
1. Choice how to live
In folklore, there is saying
- Live for virtue and kindness
Having longevity to eat the fortune of heaven
Life is necessary for human beings is worthwhile and is
directed to future lives. Knowing how to choose to live is
- Who are you? what do you live for, what will you use
your life for, and is it worth using?
Determining your own worth is also choosing to give you a
reason to live, this is considered the destination in your
life. This is the most important choice, affecting all
other choices. Not everyone can choose the right
destination for themselves and reap good results. Human
beings are inherently honest, but choosing a different
reason will have different people, different lives, and
- If you
are a Buddhist layman then choosing a way of life is very
important and useful. Because as a Buddhist layman, none
of you are ignorant of the sentence:
- If you want to know what you did in the past life
So let's see what you received now.
If you want to know what your next life will be
So look what you are doing right now.
So, if you want to have a good life in your future life,
you already know what you to do.
2. Choose what to do
Social life has many things to choose from. Maybe you
- Become a talented politician
- Become a great musician
- Become a good doctor
- Become a famous architect
- Become a super-rich merchant
In fact, being a boss or being a soldier, being a teacher
or being a worker, being an official or being a citizen,
being an owner or being a hired worker, etc. It doesn't
matter, but it's important to do what you're best at,
suitable for you, and create the most value in terms of
both financial value and social value.
Besides choosing the right career to do, you also need to
find yourself a suitable place to stick, for example, to
- Which company, organization, industry, field ...
This is very important because work is not only a place to
earn a living but also a place to serve the community and
develop society. That is speaking from an ordinary
person's point of view.
The choice of one thing to do is so important, so:
- Both graduated from the same university, both studied
equally well, but after a few years of graduation, they
will have two different lives, two different futures,
because they have two different job choices.
- Being the same person in the same society, the last day
of life are all different and in a future life, they will
be even more different.
If you are a Buddhist layman with an upwardly inclined
heart towards good, then choosing a thing to do is even
more important, because what you do, you are sowing
goodness. Whether a good politician, an engineer, a
doctor, etc. No matters how good you are if you don't have
a blessing or run out of a blessing, then life will not be
okay. This you have also seen changes in society or
experienced yourself. Therefore, the choice of Buddhists
to have a good future life is nothing more than to
cultivate merit and cultivate wisdom.
3. Choose a Teacher to learn
Education is always been one of the most important careers
in everyone's life. According to society, there are five
types of teachers you can be closest to and the most
These are knowledgeable and ethical people who directly
enlighten your mind and nourish your soul. There are many
teachers, but not everyone also is a right mean teacher,
not everyone can lead the student to master the learning
process and explore the endless world of knowledge. That's
why choosing the right people to study and respect as a
teacher is so important.
- Book is also teachers
Book is not only a teacher but also a confidant friend,
always kind, patient, and waiting for you. To learn from a
book is learning from the greatest minds of mankind
recorded in books. You can bring the world's greatest
teachers, from past to present, from East to West to your
home to teach you, at any time, but the cost is often as
much as a bowl of beef noodle soup.
However, if you don't read books, you certainly won't
learn anything, but reading a lot also is not sure what
you have to learn. The problem is choosing what kind of
books to read, how to read them, and what to learn from
- Experience Being a Teacher
In this world, there are some things you can't learn if
you don't pay a price, but there are also things you can
learn without paying. Your life will inevitably fail, the
problem is that after each failure, you need to learn
lessons so that similarly does not happen again in the
future, that's called experience. To limit failure and pay
the price, you need to learn a lot from the first two
teachers that are teachers and books
- The famous person is also the master
They are intellectuals for you to learn knowledge or
influential figures in society for you to learn their
spirit and will. Their stories of success, failure,
experiences, ideas, talents, and personalities will be
valuable lessons for you on the path to self-enlightenment
and those around you.
However, you must be able to appraise, to know who you
are, who is who, what is what. Otherwise, you will be
- People who are respectful then you don't revere, those
who don't need to be reverent, then you revere.
- Internet is also a teacher
The internet is considered one of the most important
inventions of the 20th century, making the whole of
humanity profoundly and completely different from the
previous periods. The Internet is really a useful tool for
The internet era formed two types of people: Netizens and
Cyber worms. Netizens are people who use the internet as a
tool to improve their knowledge, for work and life. And
cyber worms are those who waste most of their time and
energy on online pastimes or sabotage. There are leaf
rolling worms who play the online games day and night,
stem borers worms who specialize in finding sex movies,
Chat worms who specialize in chatting, etc. Being a
Netizen or a cyber worm, that's also an option important
to young people in this era.
For Buddhist laymen, although not one hundred percent,
most are conscious of choosing a teacher to respect and
4. Choose friends to play
Speaking of choosing friends to play with, it implies a
social person with many interwoven relationships, and it
is those relationships that shape a person's portrait. For
example, old grandparents, when commenting on a certain
people or group of people, often say:
- Horses look for horses, buffalos look for buffalo.
- Near the ink, it's black, near the lights, it's bright
In human life, in addition to the most important friend is
your life partner ( i.e your husband or wife), then you
need to have a soul mate, not just superficial, social,
and diplomatic friends. True friends are people who share
joys, sorrows, share values, and ideals of living with
you. However, they may have different paths on the journey
to building a career.
It can be said that friends are the property of each
person, a source of sharing, encouragement, and support
when needed, but that not mean taking advantage of
friends. On the contrary, playing with friends needs to be
determined to help your friends grow and progress
together. A friendship if built on such a spirit will be
extremely durable and good.
For those who have an upward and good-spirit soul,
choosing for themself a good future life is very
important, through which is a selection process such as:
- Choosing a way to live is choosing a destination and
also choosing a new life in the future. For a Buddhist
layman, it is to choose for themselves the lifestyle of a
cultivator, that is in addition to taking care of their
family, the Buddhist layman always directs their life
towards the path.
- Choose a job to do is to choose for yourself a career,
to realize life's dream or you want to accumulate good
karma of study, learn to give alms, practice precepts,
concentration, and wisdom to make luggage for future life.
- Choosing a teacher to learn is choosing respectable
people or a study method to equip you with the knowledge
and capacity to plan and implement life strategies. Thus,
in addition to the experience of books and the internet,
Buddhist laymen also choose for yourselves a teacher to
worship, a Three Jewels as a source of refugee.
- Choosing friends to play with is seek and nurture
beautiful friendships to enricher your life, which
Buddhist scholars often called good knowledge. As a
knowledge, they will always guide each other go on the
path of truth, goodness, and beauty.
All of these important choices need to be made and
followed very seriously
In the tendency to choose a future life, no one can force
you to live or choose what path to take. Only you make the
decision, so don't waste time when making your choice.
When you've made a choice, don't regret it, but you have
to be brave, hold your head up high, you will feel happy
Each person's life is different in that you know how to
control your owner's destiny. Only then can you overcome
obstacles and go to success. So be the strength to face,
bravely choose for you a way of life, not deceive your
thoughts, hide your true feelings. The near future or in a
future life depends on you, if you are not decisive, you
will miss many opportunities.
Continue to live with your unfinished passions and dreams,
Do not rush to give up your own beliefs, because only by
faith can you accomplish what you feel needs to be done.
You are the only one who has the right to decide your
life. Only through hardships, and suffering can you
experience many things. Things that if life is smooth, you
are not easy to realize.
So live your life so that you won't regret it when you
look back. If everything goes well, that's great,
Otherwise see it as an opportunity for you to experience.
The future, the present, that's all that matters. Learn
to accept and let go of goals that don't really matter,
and focus on the ones that do. Pick the things you really
care about, pick the things you want to achieve.
Learn to smile, no matter how unfairly life treats you.
Even if someone hurts you, you can still move on happily.
Do not let circumstances affect your thinking and way of
life, but you must be the one to control those actions.
So, Live and act according to what your heart tells you.
Do not rush, but slowly enjoy the happy moments that life
The present is the nurturing land so the souls know how to
love, and feel, but the truth is that happiness can start
from anywhere. Every person in the commune has different
circumstances, but all of you are similar in that one main
point is your life through your choices. Happiness,
comfortable or suffering, worry is the result of your
In short, born in this world, no one can choose where you
go, you can't choose who your parents are. But when you
are in this world, you all have the choice yourself how to
live, accept or try to change the available conditions to
make a different life according to your wishes. The choice
is yours, what you choose, decide to follow a certain path
and you must be responsible for those choices.
Never say that you were born with what is already
available, just live like that, live without giving you
the choice of a happy or miserable life:
- How can anyone be born that can choose for themselves
family, parents, and the best conditions to live?
Just Like the seeds, you scatter on the ground, it doesn't
have a chance to choose where to sprout, but it has the
choice whether its roots go deep into the ground or spread
across the shallows. If it is afraid of pain, afraid of
struggling, refuses to put its root deep in the ground,
when the storm comes, it can be knocked down at any time.
Humans are the same, you can't choose who your parents
are, and you can't choose the place or country where you
are born, because of the karma you created in your
previous life. But now that you are present in this world,
you know your friends, teachers, etc. You have the right
to choose your way of life, your negative or positive
attitude, active or passive. It is the way you choose to
live your life that determines your life now and in the
futurẹ. So don't even think that you can't change your
life. It's entirely up to you whether you want to or not.