In the literary of Vietnam, Mr. Nguyen Du said:
- The sad scenery where people never have fun.
sentence means that the surroundings are heartless, unhappy,
and not sad. But the reason for having happiness or sadness is
because of each person's thoughts. Indeed, when your mind is
happy, you find that everyone is cute, so from that same
story, or the way that speaks, you are very happy to receive.
But when your mind is upset, also the same saying, the same
gesture, but you get angry uncontrollably. Therefore, the
phrase: The marks from the mind that arise, to say enough is:
- The mind causes the marks, and the view changes depend on
According to the standpoint of Buddhism, believing that one's
destiny is predestined in the previous life is based on the
blessing and karma that person brings to this life. And
according to the law of cause and effect of Buddhism also
determined, once the karmic cause and effect are not yet
decided, the destiny of a person can be improved for the
better. This is due to that person's mental transformation.
The mood shows their mental state and positive actions. When
they are in a good mood mind, they will maintain their joy,
their spirit will cheer up, and their natural fortunes will
come, their evil predestined will disappear.
Therefore, in life, you should careful remember that you must
maintain a positive mood mind, enthusiastic and honest
attitude. Because once you lose it, whatever you do is
difficult and hard to succeed.
For the Buddhist Layman, on the way to study, the immediate
thing is to learn how to adjust the mood mind, have a good
working attitude, you will have an optimistic direction. Once
you just do not lose direction, you will not lose yourself.
The direction here is to say:
- If the truth can not be changed, then you only can change
To decide to change yourself is truly the direction in the
direction to go up and the direction of good that is the good
adjustment of your own mood. Here are suggestions of all the
1. Restrain Desire Mind
Human minds are hard to measure. Actually, you only know each
them through their smile and behaviours, but you do not know
what they want and think inside their mind. But for a greedy
person, it's almost out of control. When satisfaction is not
maintained, the greater the contrast that is formed, the more
mentality will lose balance. People who are filled with greed
and desires will find difficult to be peaceful and positive.
Because the person's mind is always in the state of constant
measurement calculation, the mind can not comfortable.
2. Do Not Calculate Too Much
If a person is too calculating, the immediate loss is
friendship or loss of friendliness. Of course, human
psychology no one likes to play with an overly calculating
person. Indeed, because of calculating, compared measures with
each other will kill the refreshment and joy of that person's
life. As such, calculating not only kills friendship,
friendliness, enjoyment but also loses one's luck.
3. Learn Forgiveness and Tolerance
Do not keep in mind the past not memorable. Past stories are
things that have happened, can not be changed, let it pass, so
that can greatly reduce the affliction emotions, in the heart
can be gentle and comfortable. In order to have a good mood
mind, let's reduce the negative emotions. So, how to reduce
these negative emotions? No resentment, no hatred show
kindness is the noble realm. The ancient language teaches:
- Inhuman people, we can not be unrighteous
Learning to forgiveness and tolerance of kindness to all
sentient beings, letting go of resentment is the cause to be
friendly to everyone. The one who does not resent nor gets
angry is the one who reaches the realm of compassion.
In society from past until now, people who meet with
resentment and can not let go are very difficult to do great
things and live happily. A person who is indifferent when
humiliated by others can be classified as:
- One type is a person who is mentally depressed, lives
temporarily, only knows to enjoy himself.
- And the other type is a person with a high and far-sighted
tendency, ability to stretch, patience to bear the burden,
tolerance, and generosity mind. These are visionaries.
In the old day, people often called these men is the
generosity of the soldiers... These people were nobler than
ordinary people, not only tolerating the difficult things but
also forgiving the ordinary people who were hard to forgive.
For religious learners, who often focus on the cultivating
self-cultivation always focus on re-examining themselves and
can use the tolerance mind and forgiveness for other people's
shortcomings. That can not only improve one's own virtue but
can also inspire and improve others.
Confucius's student is Zi Gong, once asked him:
- Sir, whether or not there is a word that can serve as a
principle for a lifetime human being to follow?
Mr. Confucius said:
- It is the word: Forgiveness.
This forgiveness word is meant to be tolerant and generous,
Buddhist Layman we often call forgiveness and tolerance.
Learning forgiveness and tolerance we will neutralize evil
- Once upon
a time, a monk went to a wealthy family to become predestined
when it was raining heavily. The Monk also asked to sleep in
this rich man's home for one night. But the host refused to
allow to sleep. Therefore, that monk had to sleep in front of
gate's the house, starving, and cold.
Early the next morning, this housekeeper of the family opened
the door of the gate, seeing the monk was all wet, shaking
with cold. The Monk asked the host's name and surname and
Many years later, the Monk becomes the abbot of a large
temple. The wife of the rich man wants to come to Temple to
worship. As soon as she arrived at the temple gate, she could
see her husband's name engraved on a board hung on a pillar
place at the entrance. The rich man's wife found it extremely
strange and went to asked a monk in the temple the reason.
That monk said:
- Because this owner had not given alms to a monk; so the
abbot of the Temple of us engraved the host-name on the board.
That rich man's wife angrily said:
- Why is the abbot of your temple so small and narrow in the
The monk said:
- It is not what you think! The abbot of our temple said that
the homeowner did not give alms to the monk; certainly, there
must be some unfortunate evil predestined relationships from
the past life did not yet terminate. Therefore, the abbot
engraved the owner of the house on that board. Every day, when
chanting and recite the buddha's name he prayed for their
families' peace, lucky and good fortune to neutralize that
After hearing these words, the rich man's wife was deeply
touched in her heart and immediately return home to tell her
husband everything happens.
The rich man, after listening to it, was extremely regretful,
Immediately, he went to the temple to offer incense, thanks to
the abbot monk. Since then, the rich family volunteered to
provide the food, nourish all monks and repair the temple
The short story tells us see that good deed can neutralize
evil predestined. Resentment against each other does not go to
the end. Just by using the compassion heart, no resentment, no
hatred, extending the tolerance mind is a good solution.
4. Keeping Peaceful Mind
Keep your thoughts calm down, reduce your desire. Once the
desire is reduced, the likelihood of favorableness increases,
like this sentence:
- Take a step back, the sky is high and the sea is wide!
The teacher of the two emperors at the end of the Qing dynasty
taught his students that:
- Facing each big thing needs to keep a peaceful mind
With tranquility, you can maintain a pure mind, see far and
wide, see-through the depths of heaven and earth, and the law
of all things. If you are tranquility, you can be brave in
before any obstacle does not make you balk.
Keeping your mind calm, you will meet whatever you will keep
calm, then whether it is:
- Lift heavy objects such as lifting light objects, you are
not distracted by the negative emotion.
5. Follow Natural
Certainly, in everyone's life; more or less everyone will
encounter troublesome things, Everyone has unexpected things.
So, whenever you encounter unpleasant things; you should calm
down and should learn to stick with nature to treat life.
Such, you do not have to be annoyed, keep your mind calm, ease
before everything that happens in life.
6. Review Old Stories To Know Present Story.
Reading is also a process of fostering knowledge. Reading a
lot, you will learn much new and strange knowledge; nurture a
noble mind. Reading is not only for the intellectuals, but
read the sage's book still is the way for us to learn
experiences from the past to behave in the present life.
7. Self Believe
No matter what the situation you encounter, you must have to
faith in yourself, do not despise yourself, the ancients said:
- If you want to be what kind of person you are, just try to
do it, you will become like that person.
Once you lose faith, do not trust yourself to do anything,
even if you started working, you also did not dare to do it;
How to say success?
confidence, you can make lasting friendships. Because everyone
who comes to you all is predestined. With confidence, you use
the attitude not to hurt others, not to create a confrontation
but to treat ơthers well, then people will be kind to you. If
not being responded by others, but a person who always
cherishes others, treats others well, then naturally you also
have a good attitude, joy, and happiness. Only with
confidence, using love, using a good personality to face your
life, your own life will become more special.
In life, though whatever happens, every day you need to
maintain a mood confidence mind, happiness, and optimistic
attitude. If you're having trouble, let's learn to comfort
yourself and open your heart to yourself, making yourself
stronger, and more confident to overcome.
moreover, use gratitude to see the world, use your heart to
see the world, should not be able to calculate win or lose;
Thank for all the works of others. The person who can do these
things, their destiny definitely become better, luck will
smile for them too.
In short, man in the world, rich and poor, good and bad, the
destiny of a person is not natural, but due to good karma or
bad karma, that person created. If the awareness is early,
while the karma is not set yet, you should practice good
karma, then the evil karma will change accordingly. Thereby,
the method of practicing happiness, equanimity, tolerance, the
forgiveness of faults of others. Because the injuries from
outside does not affect you; just like the rocks on the beach,
nothing more than makes the foam of the waves more white and
beautiful. Remember that, the vast ocean does not lament, but
tolerance it all.
The Buddha house taught that a person who has debt must repay
it. In the cycle of birth and death; you may have hurt others
so now others hurt you. Therefore let's treat this as a way to
repay them. The Ancients said:
- Sitting quietly often consider your mistakes, talk not to
remind the other's mistake.
Keeping your mind calm, considering your own fault, not
reminding others' fault, always keeping a bright smile on your
lips, behaving in harmony with everyone in genuine love.
Practicing like that, every karma will be destroyed, every
blessing will be born. When the your mind is calm and
peaceful, then good marks also from there born.