DHARMA IN EVERYDAY LIFE
By Nhất Quán
difficulty say for enough the sentence is:
difficulty becomes luck, peace, and joy.
The question is
the difficulties come from where?
Things make your
body and mind not peaceful that is the bad, superstitions, wrong
view, etc. According to the people on this world call, this is the
difficulty, but according to the Buddhism call, this is a no-good
element. You want to your body and mind peaceful and happiness you
bad become good
foolish become enlightenment
difficulties into happy luck...
The reason for
saying transforming without saying the correction, because the
word of transforming implies inner meaning rather than external.
Transforming from a bad idea becomes a good idea. Therefore in
Buddha house saying transforming the karma does not say fixing the
In life, people always face suffering. When suffering is present,
either you have to endure and collapse, or you will strive to find
a way to transform, overcome and stand up where you have fallen.
Only wise and determined people can do this and once you do, you
know how to use suffering as a material to build a happy and
Be aware that, no
matter how big or small if a short time everyone can tolerate it,
but if a long time, no one can stand it. Indeed, as you were
carrying a small backpack on your shoulders when you first carry
it seem to nothing or just the ability to endure. But the same
luggage on your shoulders is carried in a long way, then you feel
it become heavier. This is the most vivid lesson for you to know
how to transform the pain and unintended in the daily everyday
life. If the sooner you are aware and let the suffering down
sooner, you will not have heavily, unpleasant and pain earlier.
Therefore, if you
know the place and know-how to put the luggage down without having
to carry it all the way for a long time, your shoulders do not
have to be a serious pain. If you do not realize in time but have
to carry the load of luggage on your shoulders from day to day on
the long journey, you will suffer immensely, eventually, you will
bring the disasters to yourselves.
In life, people
always face suffering, not in one location or another, not in one
form or in another. When the suffering is present either you have
to endure and collapse, or you will try to find a way to
transform, forcefully stand up where you just fell. Perhaps none
of us want to suffer, so the only way to survive and live is to
stand up. But the way you stand up how less scratched and minimize
pain is an art that sometimes for the entire life you have not
been able to study and practice for mastery
The reason you do
not or have not found a suitable place to put a bundle of
suffering luggage on shoulders down, because the suffering is
overflowing, you keep seeing people and things that cause you
suffering, so you difficult ignore and forgive. A true seemingly
absurd is that you yourself can cause the suffering for your body,
nobody else. Other people, if any, can not create that much
suffering for you.
Indeed, anyone who
insulted you, they only hurt you once. Instead of suffering once,
your mind keeps that feeling in your heart forever, so those
unpleasant words keep ringing in your ears seem to knife hit and
the salt pour in your heart. Every time you recall that every time
your mind swirls of ignorance dust that fills the mind, Thus, if
it is not you, then no one can make you suffer.
When you identify
yourself as the culprit who ruined the health, spirit, and
well-being of yourself, you can more effectively transform
suffering, because now you are in full control. To solve the
problem, It is important to determine where the problem really is.
Once you perpetrators have been identified, getting caught and
dealing with criminals is no longer difficult.
Every people has
their own way of embracing and transforming suffering. The most
basic principle is that you and calm and objective yourself and
those related to the suffering presenting in you. Do not too
stressful, do not discourage, but create a balance in your mind to
consider the problem thoroughly and having way the most effective
solution. The first thing you need to do is to pay attention to
what is happening in your mind, and how does that make you feel?
If you respond
according to you have, what will be the consequences for you and
the people involved? At that time what do you gain or lose? What
your relative or the surrounding of you gain or lose if you act in
Are there any
other safer transforming pathways?
Such a question
should be asked, and when there are appropriate and reasonable
answers, then you take action.
When you have had
such thoughts, I believe that you have enough time to regain
balance, when you have completed the answers to question related
to the difficult problem you are facing. Certainly, the
transforming path will appear in front of you.
This time or
another time, you must embrace the baggage of suffering as an
obvious fact of your life. The important thing is you just hold it
in the shortest time and quickly find a way and a place to put the
suffering luggage on your shoulders down so that your body does
Sometimes you find
life complicated, too heavy, and recounting days, months of
happiness and lightness are not much. Usually when you are sad,
what do you sad about, who do you sad about? You sad life when
life is not a dream usually happens not as you want! Sad when a
person betray, heartless, lacking in love and pragmatic.
If you are sad for
life, then whining, blame, miserable ... It is really a waste of
time and effort of a lifetime. If you can spend the time of a
lifetime to a sad life, it will not solve anything. Regardless of
life, you still have to live, so you should not choose such a
miserable way of life.
If you are blame
people, so everywhere you see all unpleasant people, do not
respect each other, selfish, lack of honesty, greedy, etc. When
you have been in an uncomfortable mood and often reproach then go
around the world, you can not find peace, even small, though
There was a
Buddhist layman when he came to temple to worship Buddha he says
- Venerable sir, I
have been to the United State for 15 years, my job has changed at
least 10 times. This year I am 65 years old, I realize my life is
not so lucky, more miserable than happiness and often face the
circumstance displease and against heart, sometimes I want to die.
I, venerable Thich
Dong Trung heard so, and give to him an advised:
- As a Buddhist
layman, you should believe the Causal Law or Cause and Effect, the
reason you are suffering from bad luck is that in the past life
you were do not accumulate the merit or you did but very little
while you create too many unwholesome karma. Therefore if you want
to transform the difficulties, you must try to do a lot of good,
and you should not think the negative such as.
Besides, there are
many people aware of karma and because of the desire to transform
karma, they go to the temple to pray the blessings of the
Boddhisattva, Buddha. They offered one but they want to enjoy
merit up to ten. They also work hard to do many other good works,
but their inner greed and selfishness remains intact. For them,
They doing good deeds just because they want good retribution for
themselves, not true love for people. If such as so, they have
built the blessing castle on the sand, because it does not come
from a pure interior at all. According to the Causal Law, of
course, they will meet good luck in the next life, but inner them
the greedy, selfish nature remains and this selfish greedy nature
will motivate them to do other unwholesome deeds.
the mind or Transforming inwardly is trying to eliminate greed,
hatred, and ignorance, etc. Because the true nature of humans is
the desire to eat, drink, wear, long-living, money, fame, benefit,
and so on, etc. I say this may be frustrating for you, but to
alleviate unwholesome deeds, I should note that what is not your,
should not take it. As just now, there was a Buddhist layman who
come to Temple to worship for the full moon of January, because
she realizes that she did not dare to bring the objects bought
from the market into the temple so she left them in the corridor.
But after attending the ceremony, she finds down someone took it
As well as, the
vegetable, beans of the temple are also left in the corridor for
freshening, to prepare the meal for the Senior Nutrition Program
is also usually lost.
people, once someone touches a little bit of pride is crazy and
whenever you see what you can use it, you want to take it. This is
the general mood of the human being because of greed, hatred, and
delusion, which has been ingrained in our subconscious mind for so
many generations. Therefore inner transformation is to have the
courage to gradually give up greed, jealousy so that the mind is
clear. Once the mind is clear, the mind and body become pure and
of course, the karma will end.
The Buddha taught
the cause of all suffering is ignorance, and craving, or in other
words, greed, hatred, and ignorance are the source of all
disputes, unjust adversities and then bring to the anxiety and
dissatisfaction. The practical inner transformation path is that
you must know how to keep yourself according to the precepts,
concentration, wisdom so that you can eradicate the craving,
hatred, and delusion then your life will be free liberated because
the precept will break greed, the concentrate will break the
hatred, and the wisdom will break the ignorance.
The ultimate goal
of Buddhism is to help sentient beings rescue completely and
permanently from suffering by eliminating defilements, the most
basic of which is greed, anger, and delusion or can call is
ignorance. In order to eradicate roots of ignorance, you must
develop your intellect, because only the light of wisdom will have
enough power to erase the darkness of delusion.
remember, not every human being has a body is must suffering, but
suffering is because you mistakenly close your eye and run
according to your own prejudice or opinion. Therefore the right
view of Buddha helps humans to right see, right understanding and
what Buddha house call as shown, and from there, it forms the
basis for intellectual development.
Indeed, seeing is
right, the flow of thought is bright and clear, therefore you
should right carefully because the thought will turn into the
words. Be careful with what you say, because words like an arrow
shot away and can not take it back. Please act carefully with your
actions, because actions will into habits, practice temperament.
And finally, that habit is your personality. Your life is elegant,
gentle or stormy, unsteady all because of your personality or
lifestyle. In other words, also because of ignorance, unknowing,
you mistakenly rely on your body, mouth, and mind to create good
or bad karma, and from which your fate will be driven by karma.
The Buddha taught
Nothing in life is
scary or difficult, once we really understand it.
Buddhism is a religion that does not make self miserable, does not
make people miserable, but want to success, then you must return
to live with human moral, that is, try to abandon craving, and
abandon unwholesome dharmas.
The principle of
Buddhism is to help sentient beings get rid of all consequences of
affliction, suffering, in order to have a life peace, joy,
freedom, that want to reach to this ultimate goal is the sentient
being must know how to let go. Therefore in the Majjhima Nikaya,
the Buddha summed up the core of Buddhism in a brief sentence:
- Do not cling
And the Diamond
Sutra says that:
- When the mind
does not cling to anything, then the mind of liberation is from
In addition, in
order to be fully transformed inside, you must first destroy your
ego. In the Nikaya Sutra, Buddha taught that, once you have
self-realization, then when you work for the benefit of others,
you do it with a carefree mind, non-cling mind. That is when you
do the wholesome, you do not think about your own benefit but
focus on the benefit for the sentient being, so that good deeds
will bring about much later result. Therefore, you should do the
merit with selflessness, that is doing a good deed without taking
any merit to yourself or towards others, then the causal law will
not only compensate you for many blessing in this life or
after-life but also give to you noble personality, and pure mind
to continue to enjoy merit and to do the good deeds.
karma is trying to liberation the vile selfish ego, in order to
have a moral life to forget give up for self, to forget yourself
to live fully for everyone around you. Altruistic life is
considered one of the most beautiful virtues of man. Even if you
have not yet realized the true state of selflessness, that is you
no longer accepting the self and the mine, but in every second,
minute, every mind you know how to give up your benefit in order
to take care of for the benefit of everyone, then the self is
gradually being destroyed
Have you ever
calmed down, dared to look at yourself and feel sad for yourself?
If not yet, train
yourself to get used to this. This is a skill that is not easy and
required serious practice and regular of a mature and mature
thinker. Only when you equip yourself with this skill can you
change yourself, change the circumstances, change the way of
communication, life will surely become softer, happier and most
important is more peaceful and freer.
You can change,
adjust and renew yourself if you are unhappy with what you have
thought, judged, acted and behaved in your past relationships. If
you blame life, life can not love you but change according to your
wishes. If you blame people, cold people do not care about your
emotions. Therefore, blame life or blame people who are all
something goes wrong, the only thing you need to do is be calm,
and be the arbiter to see the problem. If the problem lies with
the person and the circumstance out there, it is not too
important, because of it out there, if you do not allow, do not
graciously invite it to enter your mind, nobody, no circumstance
can have can disturb your mind.
Remember, you have
the right to open either close your mind. If that is the noble
guest which is nice words or good ideas, good advice, sincere
sharing, understanding, and love, etc... then you open the door to
welcome your hearts. And If those are bad friends who do not
invite them, that are detractors, unspeakable grudges, petty
selfishness, miserable things, unworthy compliments ... then you
have the right, and you should be strong boldly close the
fasteners so your is safe and healthy.
However, most of
the problem is yourself, not in other people, not in the
circumstance. Often, you think you are a victim, but when you look
deeply, you are the author of the pain and suffering you take for
Remember, what you
do is your own choice, it should not blame others, such as
previous relationships, work, home economics, an argument, etc.
You, yourself on one else, you should take full responsivity for
each of your decisions and choices. Therefore, do not blame life,
do not blame life, do not blame people nor need to blame yourself,
but boldly make true remarks about yourself to prove that you have
Need to overcome
the common psychology of ordinary people which is to look at other
people's faults and hide your faults as Buddha taught:
- Recognizing and
accepting you are clumsy, and wrongly then you can begin to
improve and perfectly improve.
This means that
life begins to be more fun with accepting yourself is not perfect
yet, ready for the new and better every day. Make your mistakes
bright, please let the past make you better.
righteousness and insight are all the characteristics of
mindfulness. So, it is the best stop the unwholesome action
transforms the evil in you.
In short, in order
to have a light and relaxed life, you should find any way to
transform the negative emotion as soon as possible, do not pent up
them to form the toxic tumor in mind. Being so, you do not need to
carry the burdens in your mind. Buddha taught us to release the
negative energy by an alternative method or by transformation
- Replace or
transform the blame, anger, dissatisfaction, boredom with the
sympathy, tolerance, forgiveness, and love.
In order to do so,
you need to deeply understand people, problem, and the situation
related to your annoyance thoroughly with a fair, objective, and
inclusive view. Then, if anyone has put a little more luggage on
the shoulder will not make you buckled because you know how to
remove the feelings of insecurity to leave safely.
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