Compassion
H.H. The Fourteenth Dalai Lama
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On behalf of all the people of Tibet, I would like to
thank all those who have taken an interest in the culture of Tibet and
its traditions, both spiritual and secular. I thank you for all you
are doing to make sure these traditions do not disappear.
I am going to speak today of peace of mind. The reason
Tibetan culture is so important-at least, it seems to me-is that our
culture has great potential for promoting peace of mind. During the
extremely difficult period we have known recently in Tibet, one of the
factors which has helped us to remain determined and not lose hope is
this aspect of our own culture.
Our civilization is such that it has allowed us to
preserve our serenity and our inner peace in spite of all the trials
and difficult situations we have known. Recently I have had more and
more contact with Western scientists and we have been speaking about
the frustration experienced by human beings and of various possible
remedies for that frustration. The scientists questioned me at length
about the mental health and state of mind of Tibetan people, and they
were very surprised to discover that despite all the trauma the
Tibetans have experienced, they manage to preserve a stable mental
state. This has been observed in particular among those who spent long
years in Chinese prisons and labor camps.
I would like to share with you an example. The associate
abbot of the Nanigyal monastery, who was recently exiled to India, was
imprisoned in I959, then sent to a Chinese labor camp-he was
incarcerated a total of eighteen years. After he reached his monastery
in exile, we had a chat together. He told me of his life and his
experiences. He mentioned that while he was in the hands of the
Chinese, he was in great danger for the following reason: he explained
that he almost lost the compassion he felt for his torturers. I found
this remarkable!
I often tease this man, telling him that despite all those
difficult years spent at the mercy of the Chinese, his face has hardly
changed. Although he is older than me, I believe he has even less
white hair than I do-you probably can't see mine today, I shaved my
head this morning! Above all, he has kept his wonderful smile. All
this is possible, or so it seems to me, because of Tibetan and
Buddhist culture.
Perhaps my modest experience might serve as an example. As
a Buddhist monk, I have been trained in the practice, the philosophy,
and the teachings of Buddhism, but not at all with the view of having
to cope with the demands of modern life. I have had to handle enormous
responsibilities. I lost my freedom at the age of sixteen, and my
country when I was twenty-four. For thirty-four years I have lived in
exile, a refugee in a foreign country. All this time, while we have
been working for the exiled Tibetan community, our country has known
immeasurable destruction and suffering. Despite all this tragedy I
find that as far as my mind, peace, and serenity are concerned, I am
not doing too badly.
On occasion tourists come back from Tibet or from the
refugee camps in India with the false impression that Tibetans can't
have suffered all that much because they seem very happy and are
always smiling. This misconception is the only disadvantage of our
mental attitude.
How can we develop inner peace and serenity in our mind? I
think human nature is basically good. It is true that we are also made
up of jealousy and hatred, but nevertheless I believe our dominant
characteristics are affection and kindness. From the first day of our
lives until our last breath, the very foundation of our existence is
affection and human warmth. It is a well-known fact that children
raised in an affectionate family have greater success in developing
their human qualities, while those who grow up in the absence of the
favorable conditions of love and compassion end up with a far more
negative behavior in life and create tension wherever they go. The
absence or the presence of compassion and love in a family therefore
has a very obvious effect. According to doctors and scientists, a calm
mental state is a critical factor in a person's health. In addition,
from the first weeks of life, physical contact, whether with the
mother or someone else, is of prime importance for the awakening and
development of the child's brain
We all know that on days when we are in a good mood, when
the whole world seems to be smiling at us, we can accept predicaments
or bad news more easily than if our mind is already upset, frustrated,
or troubled, when the slightest incident might cause us to explode
with negative emotions. If we make a habit of being governed by these
negative emotions, we will lose our appetite, sleep badly, perhaps
become ill, and lose a few years of our life itself as a result. So
mental calmness is very important.
I think that in the West people are very precise and are
more interested in action than in motivation. For me, motivation is
more important, for it is sometimes difficult to judge the value of an
act without referring, precisely, to what lies behind it. After all,
the energy of life, of human activity; is intention. This takes place
in our thoughts, and just as there exist in the outside world
countless varied substances some beneficial, others harmful-which we
try either to accumulate or avoid, respectively, there also exist in
the inner world, in the mind, thousands and thousands of thoughts of A
kinds. Some are very useful because they make us happy and give us
inner tranquility and strength. Others disturb us, leaving us
demoralized or depressed, sometimes even pushing us toward suicide.
Thoughts and emotions are therefore either positive or
negative. We must first of all establish their worth before we try to
encourage the positive ones and eliminate the others. In this way, we
can cultivate inner peace. An ability to distinguish beneficial
thoughts from those which are not makes all the difference. As a rule,
we do not take our thoughts and our emotions into account. We simply
consider them to be an integral part of ourselves, and believe that
there is nothing we can do about them. When we must deal with a
problem or danger, anger and hatred seem to protect us and give us
renewed energy. However, attachment creeps insidiously into our minds;
we treat it like a comfortable old friend. But in the end this "old
friend will lead us down the garden path. Some of these emotions, like
anger or fear, reveal their true face almost immediately. Other
emotions, like attachment, make their negative effects felt over time.
Once we recognize the characteristics of negative attitudes and
correctly identify their consequences, we will know how to be more
wary of them.
From then on we can begin to detach from them and
cultivate the opposite attitude- compassion, forgiveness, and
sympathy. In this way we can progressively strengthen positive
emotions as we weaken our negative emotions. Even if they do continue
to appear, they will be passing emotions and not leave too visible a
mark upon our mind. In some cases, it is better to express anger or
resentment provoked by past events in order to rid ourselves of these
feelings. But, in general, if we let anger or other negative emotions
flow freely, we will get used to them and eventually lose our temper
more and more frequently. That is why I think it is very useful to
impose a certain discipline in shaping one's mind. Discipline is not
imposed from the outside; it is our own intelligence that must impose
it from within. In this way we accept it fully.
In training the mind, time is of crucial importance. We
must not expect to be completely transformed in a few minutes or even
a few weeks, by thinking, for example, that because we have received
the blessing of an enlightened individual we will be able to obtain
immediate results. Such an attitude is hardly realistic. It takes
time, sometimes years, perhaps even decades. But if we persevere,
keeping our goal and the means to attain it in sight, we will
certainly progress over time.
How can we lessen anger and hatred? In some cases, if it
is motivated by compassion, for example, anger can be a positive
thing. Hatred, on the other hand, is always negative. We must measure
and understand the harmful nature of distressing feelings such as
hatred. As I have already said, hatred makes us lose our health and
our friends, and it will eventually spoil our entire life. Negative
emotions create problems on all levels -individual, family, community,
national, even international. The history of humanity has shown that
those who have inflicted unspeakable suffering on others were driven
by boundless hatred and greed. At times such behavior was simply
through ignorance. This does not mean that these people are bad at
heart-they are human beings, after all. But they allowed their minds
to be dominated and confused by negative emotions which eventually
turned them into murderers.
Again, if we look at the history of humanity, we will find
that the great majority of successful endeavors were accomplished by
people , who were altruistic and at peace with themselves. The
majority of great musicians and artists possess this inner peace.
There are exceptions, of course, but it generally holds true that
artistic creation springs from an inner tranquility that is conducive
for the expression of one's deepest feelings. In this way, artists
create happiness and bring inspiration to others.
We can also take the contemporary example of Mahatma
Gandhi, an extraordinary human being who had great self-discipline. He
needed very little to be content. Despite his Western education and
his awareness of the benefits to be had from that civilization in
terms of material comfort or opportunity, he chose to live in India in
great simplicity, almost like a beggar. This reflects his
self-discipline and altruism. Everything positive that human beings
have managed to accomplish has been, in my opinion, a result of these
positive emotions of the mind.
My own experience, as well as that of others, has shown me the degree
to which positive mental attitudes bring happiness to oneself and to
others, and to what degree negative attitudes can be destructive. On
that basis it is up to each individual to make every possible effort
to develop his or her mind.
Human beings live in society. Even though it is more
agreeable to have lots of friends and no enemies, everyone finds both
friends and enemies among other people. Friends and enemies do not
exist as such. Friendship and enmity result from different factors, of
which the primary one is our own mental attitude. When we are open to
others and ready to offer them our friendship and affection, this
immediately creates a good environment. Without even realizing it,
other people come "P to us with a smile on their face- not a tense,
artificial smile, but a sincere one. But if we feed on bad intentions
and negative thoughts, if we do not take into account the rights and
wishes of others; ill short, if we think only of ourselves and have a
tendency to exploit others for our own ends, the situation will
suffer. Even close family members will stay away in the end. Thus it
becomes dear that friendsand enemies are the product of our own
personal attitude.
Some think, mistakenly, that money creates friends.
Nothing could be less certain-it also creates enemies! Let us think
for a moment of those who greet us with a big smile on their face: are
they our friends or the friends of our money? There's no telling. For
as long as we have money, they will certainly come and share a bottle
of champagne, and everything will be fine. But when the money is no
longer their friends begin to disappear, as if by magic. It becomes
impossible to reach them on the phone, or their response is abrupt.
Money and material goods are of course necessary, but they are not the
essential thing. True wealth is to be found within.
Compassion, forgiveness, hope, and perseverance are
positive attitudes which all great religions try to develop and
strengthen. You n not necessarily be a believer- every person has the
right to accept refuse religion-in order to amplify these positive
attitudes of mind. We should remember that the great world religions
carry same message and encourage the same human qualities. Although
religious dogma may differ, the central message remains the same. On
the basis of this common ground, the message of love and co passion
will spread to the far corners of the world if all those who low a
spiritual path work together in harmony and mutual respect.
But if those who advocate these same human qualities
quarrel with and criticize one another, how will they be able to
communicate message to others? People will surely say, not without a
certain irony, "Look at them! Where are tolerance and mutual respect?
They can even get along." If we want to help humanity in a practical
way, we must to begin by setting an example of mutual respect,
harmony, an, togetherness in the eyes of the world. Seen from a
distance, difference can seem enormous. But if we approach others and
share their experiences, we will better understand how to get along
despite doctrinal differences, and how to develop together the
positive aspects of human existence. It is therefore of the utmost
importance to maintain good relations, and for different religious
movements to communicate with each other. Despite all the conflicts
caused by religious discord, whether .in Bosnia or Africa, there have
been encouraging steps towards reconciliation. But a sustained effort
must be made in this direction!
- I recently saw a documentary about the suffering of
77bet, which included the testimony of a monk who had been
incarcerated for more than thirty-three years- twenty-four in prison
and nine in labor camps. He had suffered the most awful torture
imaginable, which left him handicapped for
life. How can we conceive of peace of mind, which implies serenity
and virtue, when we bear a story like this? Wouldn't anger and
pragmatism be a more appropriate response?
- The most important thing is to not be indifferent, to
feel strongly about the situation but in a constructive way, if you
see what I mean. We must not be overwhelmed by our feelings to the
point of paralysis. I'm not sure if I've understood what you are
asking, but if the idea is to maintain inner calm effectively when
confronted with situations like the one you have described, then it
depends in large part upon each individual's own level of spiritual
development.
- Considering the terrible ordeals you and your people
have known and continue to endure, do you have any thoughts about
nature, about gardens? Do you consider them to be one of the more
obvious symbols of civilization? What message can a landscape offer,
in your opinion? Can gardens and landscapes he4P us to find peace of
mind, to identity and adopt the path to wisdom?
- I do indeed believe that, particularly when our spirit
is troubled, if lye go outside and look at the land around us, breathe
in the fresh air and listen to the birds singing, we can find a
temporary peace of mind. After all, in spite of all our knowledge and
abilities, we are still part of nature, we are its product. Thousands
of years ago our ancestors lived much closer to nature. Today we still
have traces of that life it us: even in the most modern homes we like
to have wooden furniture and green plants -it's in our blood.
In the past all of life was based on trees. Their flowers
gave us decoration, their fruit gave us nourishment, their leaves and
fibers clothed us and provided us with shelter. We took refuge in
their branches for protection from wild animals. We used wood for
heat, and for cane to bear our weight when we grew old, and to make
weapons to defend ourselves. We were very close to trees. Today,
surrounded by sophisticated machinery and high-performance computers
in our ultra modem offices, it is easy to forget our ties with nature.
It is normal to try and improve the quality of our lives through
science and technology. But at the same time it is important to know
the limitation of such progress and to remain aware of the fact that
we still depend on nature. If the environment were to be radically
altered there would be nothing we could do to protect ourselves. That
is why all o thoughts and acts must follow the Middle Way.
- In our Western minds there is often confusion between
repression and search for inner peace. When we repress something, we
take everything that is a problem in our lives and hide it away in a
little corner of ourselves, thinking that we will be able to forget it
and go on living without having to deal with it.
What do you think of this art of repression?
- I think I already touched briefly on this problem by
saying that in some cases, that of fear in particular, it is not
necessarily a bad thing to express your emotions in order to be rid of
them. But I do think this presents a certain danger. Indeed, if we
lack inner discipline and we let all the emotions that go through our
heads come out, on the pretext that they must be expressed, we will
reach a point of considerable excess and may even have difficulty in
respecting the laws of our country. Socially or individually, we do
need a certain inner discipline in order to direct our thoughts in a
constructive way. Human emotions have no limits, and the strength of
negative emotions is infinite.
But I do not think that we can talk about repression in
that case. on the contrary, this is something quite positive. We study
and practice in order to eliminate our ignorance in stages. Practice
can often seem difficult. When we are tired we might not feel like
carrying on. But nevertheless, as we become aware of the benefits of
practice we will impose a certain discipline and go on with our
effort. In studying we expand our knowledge, but that does not mean
that we repress our ignorance!
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