DHARMA IN EVERYDAY LIFE
- PRACTICE HUMBLE CONDUCT
By Nhat Quan
learning more about the practice of humble conduct, you should
try to understand the word haughty.
giving yourself above everyone else, so you look down on
others openly. According to Buddhism, pride is one of the ten
basic afflictions, specifically called pride. The meaning of
the letters Proud. As text:
- Proud: Being
a little better than others, thinking you are much better than
Being good at self-reliance and overpowering people.
Being equal to someone, that you consider yourself to be
better than someone else. People are better than you, which is
considered equal or lose to you.
Being a person more than you but giving you more than a
- Abhimana: It
is not yet achieved but for oneself has achieved.
: Is a bit of outstanding talent but despises people
of arrogance is humility:
one of the human virtues. Because humility is courtesy,
reverence, knowing how to live humbly, always looking up, and
closing oneself in the standards of life. People who are
humble, always ask for understanding, personal ambition is to
go on forever, the purpose is not to brag, not to promote
themselves to others. Especially:
- Always have
a sense and proper attitude in self-assessment, not
complacent, or arrogant.
- Always be
respectful, and respect each other, so that you can learn from
humility are courtesy, knowing how to live humbly, always
looking up, and placing oneself within the established
standards. Humble people always raise their minds to learn,
the great ambition of the individual is to go on forever, the
purpose is not to brag, not to promote yourself to others.
Thus, the word
humility has many definitions as well as interpretations of
the phrase humility, but in general, the word humility is:
- Know how to
respect above and below, not be complacent about what you
have, not arrogant about what you do, and always carefully
preserve the values you receive.
knowing that what we have done is only a small part of
perfecting the character of a person who is educated in his
dealings with people around him so well, and in the end,
direction to enlightenment.
People who are
humble and practice humble conduct always show:
- The highest
expression of humility is gratitude
- People who
are inherently humble often consider themselves to be
inferior, still have to go further, and need to improve and
- People who
have the humility to never accept their own success in the
current situation, always consider their success to be
insignificant and always look for all ways to improve their
performance and learn more.
people never show complacency about what you have, you know,
so it's easy to create empathy and friendly relationships with
others in communication, so you can make friends with many
people do not appreciate you and lower others, do not compare,
so you yourself are always peaceful and happy.
people show high self-control, conquering your ego.
Why do you
need to be humble?
You need to
have humility, because:
- Humility to
eliminate bad qualities such as belittling, slandering, and
- Humility to
learn, access to the true door of understanding.
- Humility to
eliminate ego, see your true worth.
helps you to see yourself correctly, and to be aware that no
one is perfect, so you don't have illusions and don't get
caught up in personal ambitions.
- Humility is
the best way to avoid pride and complacency.
humility, because, although an individual's talent is
important, really for everyone, that talent is just a small
drop of water in the middle of an endless ocean. Your
understanding cannot be compared with everyone else living
with you, so no matter how talented you are, you will always
have to learn more and learn more forever.
As a human
being, when you have created yourself a sublime talent,
admired them, an illustrious position, a resounding
reputation, and created for you a prosperous life, everyone is
happy. But, for the individual person is like that, can you
dare to say that those talents, those experiences, that wisdom
can you have enough confidence that with what you have
accomplished? No one in the world has one?
No of course.
Indeed, no matter how talented a human being, that talent, the
wisdom that exists still never asserts that only you are the
best, no one else is better. Those who still believe that are
wrong, do not know the art of dealing.
individual's talents are natural, but their absolute talent
for everyone is another matter, your person is just better
than that. There are people who are smaller than you, inferior
to you, but compared to everyone, it is unbelievable. Because:
- If you are a
talented person, I believe there are tens of thousands of
people in society than you.
- If you are a
talented artist, there are hundreds of times more talented
people in society than you.
- If you are a
millionaire, there are many rich and rich billionaires in
society, thousands of times more wealthy than you, etc.
lies in your awareness of the truth. And humility will help
you to see yourself more clearly and truly.
means learning how to let go of pride. Because humility is the
most basic human virtue. Humans are the heroes of all things,
with high intelligence, but whether you are extremely lucky or
you are an ordinary person, you are actually very small in
Socrates was a
famous philosopher of ancient Greece. He not only showed the
world his talent and wisdom with famous works but also
expanded the enrollment of students, encouraging those with
less education. He used his famous art of dialogue, leading
the intellectual development of young people. Whenever people
praised him for his erudition and wisdom, Socrates always
- I only know
one thing, I don't know anything.
widely hailed as the father of mechanics who invented the law
of universal gravitation. He also defined the laws of
thermodynamics. It can be said that Newton is one of the great
men in the history of science, however, he is also a humble
man. When Newton was about to die, friends and relatives
visited and praised him:
- He is the
great man of our time...
When he heard
the two great words, Newton shook his head and said:
- Don't say
that, I don't know how people look at me, I see myself as just
a child playing on the beach, sometimes I find a smooth
pebble, a beautiful seashell, while before me there was a vast
ocean full of undiscovered secrets.
A teacher, our
Buddha Shakyamuni is an enlightened person who understands all
the reasons of the universe, everything, yet he also said:
- In the 49
years of being called a missionary, I have not said a word.
examples make it easy to see that humility is an excellent and
indispensable quality on the path to the success of great
people. At the same time, it is a solid foundation to help you
stabilize your work, and help you create good communication
relationships. However, in today's society, there are also
some people who always consider themselves talented, and
ambitious, and like to express themselves for fear that no one
will know they are good. Moreover, they also prove that they
are not like ordinary people, hoping to gain the honor of
As a disciple
of Buddha, studying and following the Buddha's teachings, you
need to be humble, not arrogant and complacent, should not
consider yourself superior to others, and should not always
want to be the center of everyone's look. Only those who are
humble and cautious can see the excellence and forte of
others, so they will receive the love and respect of everyone
and have good communication relationships.
not a renunciation of your own dignity, but an expression of
your upright and respectful trust in others. Humility is a
compromise between success and failure, being wary of past
failures, especially remembering present successes. You can't
let failure control you, in this situation, being humble has a
balancing effect, not letting you exalt or belittle yourself,
don't consider yourself better than others, or looking down on
and understanding always go hand in hand with humility. A man
of true understanding will be as deep as the ocean. The more
knowledgeable people are, the more they realize what they know
is too little.
No matter what
industry you work in, or what position you hold, only careful
humility can maintain the spirit of constant progress, helping
you to improve your knowledge and abilities even more.
Maintaining a humble, careful quality can help you see your
own weaknesses. Humility also goes hand in hand with not being
complacent, constantly growing, listening quietly to the
opinions and criticisms of others, and being careful when
working. Arrogant people are complacent, always satisfied with
the present without continuing to try, and subjectively
authoritarian, if it is light, they will have problems at
work, if it is heavy, they can lose their whole career.
those who practice humble conduct can self-examine. Only when
you know how to examine yourself can you constantly correct
your mistakes, and improve what you are not good at. Humble
people do not feel self-deprecating and always show
appropriate humility in front of others.
So how to
practice humble conduct?
A person with
great intentions is like a tree with roots that can live and
flourish. People who want to have great intentions must always
be humble, even if they encounter small things like dust, you
will help create favorable conditions for others. If you can
do that, even heaven and earth will be touched by your work.
The creation of happiness lies in oneself, which means having
a true heart. Therefore, according to the guidance of the
Venerable Ones, if you want to practice humble conduct, you
can first start with the smallest things such as listening,
always keeping a smile on the people around you, and always
practicing the right things. virtues:
If you want to
practice humble conduct, you must first be tolerant. According
to Lao Tzu:
- Rivers and
seas are vast and deep because they are at the lowest position
to receive water from the smallest streams.
- If you are
tolerant, the charity will win people's sympathy.
So let you
always be able to tolerate everything, tolerate others.
Knowing how to tolerate will become a great person.
for what you have, and always tell yourself:
- The most
basic things you have are not your own, such as You have a
good brain, a beautiful body, a good voice... not by you, but
that you are lucky, or thanks to the good karma that has been
cultivated. So instead of being arrogant, be grateful with
respect, and try harder.
always acknowledge what helps you to do well and makes you
feel grateful to others. Also, acknowledge the abilities of
others and try to compliment them. Gratitude is also about
recognizing your own shortcomings, not finding someone else's
fault and honestly seeing the right sides of you.
3- Do not
strengths and weaknesses. So don't compare yourself to others
and try to do something better than them. Comparison only
makes you expand your own weakness. Try to help others, which
makes you feel good and humble towards others. Avoid talking
too much about your own good deeds, instead, let people know
that you are doing good things for them.
Open your mind
and listen to the opinions of others. Make yourself brave and
don't change your mind out of fear, or out of emotion. Listen
with confidence, sometimes you may not be knowledgeable, you
don't know everything, and you don't recognize yourself, but
Looking at the
big picture, you are just a tiny dot. Compared to a history of
millions of years, your life is only about sixty to one
hundred years old. Compared to the current nine billion people
on earth, compared to the entire human race from ancient to
ancient times, your life is less than a dot. So always think
bigger and deeper, listen, and understand with respect to see
that you are still small and need to try harder!
5- Find the
If anyone has
some experience that you don't, it's your teacher in that
field. Albert Einstein, considered one of the men of
extraordinary intelligence, said:
- I have never
met a person so stupid that I did not learn anything from him.
compliments are an expression of your gratitude and humility.
The more you recognize the abilities of others, the less you
fall into the trap of pride in your words. Sincere praise is
an expression of your ego that is gone or greatly reduced. In
addition, sincere praise helps you to improve your self-worth
or that of the person being praised.
7- Get your
to suggestions, advice, reactions from others, from the
environment, and expressions. From there, you will find your
flaws, and realize that you are not perfect, there are still
many shortcomings, and weaknesses in both physical, mental,
and cognitive. Acknowledge that fact, and humbly accept the
help of others with reverence and sincere thanks.
8- Help others
humbly accept the help of others with reverence and gratitude,
you also give your sincere help to others.
- Do to others
what you would like others to do to you.
Once you have
practiced humble conduct there is no more attitude or thought
that compares you to others so the concept of pride is gone.
Then you have the right to be confident in what you do, boldly
declare in the crowd, it's not arrogance as some people think,
it's confidence in your abilities, you completely have
confidence. And when you say it, it means that you are brave
enough to take responsibility for your words. Especially for
educated people. On the contrary, those who show humility, and
self-deprecation, do not dare to speak, are not necessarily
humble, but are likely to fall into two states. Either you're
weak or you're afraid of losing your rights, so you don't dare
to express your opinion.
contrary, humility is listening and being willing to correct
or respect, but not meekness, rather it is the recognition of
your true worth. You know yourself well, so you no longer
compare yourself to anyone, you have the courage to speak up
for what you do, and you are ready to take responsibility for
it. You are no longer bowing to anyone but are willing to
learn in every situation. Because You know yourself well, you
also know people, you judge them based on competence and
facts, not on humble words.
What kind of
person you are, you see like that, because actually in the
human condition, what this person considers a weakness, can
become an advantage for others. Someone's quietness can be a
disadvantage in some situations, but it can also be a strength
for that person in others. A person's fame can also be a good
thing in one situation, but it can also hinder him in other
that you will see that the true nature of man is more precious
than the passing values of the outside. Therefore, practicing
humility properly will help you to come to that truth.
Humility will bear the fruit of peace, freedom in the present
life, and enlightenment and liberation in the future.
humility is a good quality that should be possessed by every
Buddhist. Each of you today, with talented people, should know
how to build and cultivate this humility. Because when you
practice like that, you will be popular with the people around
you, and receive back what you learn from them, and their
loving respect for you.
humility is not so much humility and weakness, but a noble
virtue, capable of doing it all. This quality needs to be
nurtured and practiced over time. It is extremely precious,
for it is the source of joy in the present life and the
benediction of liberation in the future.
humility is quiet, but indomitable resilience, helping people
in today's society not feel tired of past failures, nor
arrogant because of current successes. Humility is also a
weapon to control your emotions and feelings to help you
maintain your stability. People who practice humility are
usually relaxed and often smile, keep youthful and cheerful,
and are always welcomed by everyone.
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