DHARMA IN EVERYDAY LIFE
- PRACTICE HONEST CONDUCT
By Nhat Quan
Of the five
precepts of lay Buddhists, the fourth is:
- Do not lie
about the language, but don't lie about your body either.
Because lying about the language the consequences are:
- Blind, deaf,
lying is offensive to the listener, so as a Buddhist, you
should not lie when it is not necessary. Because when you tell
a lie your eyes darken, your heart beats faster and your
gestures become awkward, your appearance shoves, to the wise
they immediately recognize it.
know how to take advantage of honest people. Honest people do
not like lies, are wary of liars but are also ready to fight
frankly with liars. Blameful and pitiful for those who are
dishonest, who behave in a trickier manner but think they can
hide people's eyes.
There are also
some of you who think it's wise to deceive others, in fact,
they only make people believe you for a moment, and honest
people will gain trust in others in the long run. Wise people
are often pleasing to others and easy to achieve, so most
people aspire to become wise people soon. To get there
quickly, some of you have tried to please others by all means,
including lies and double life. But one sage said:
- The highest
wisdom is sincerity
being honest with yourself personally to everyone in society.
It is expressed not only in words but it must be deeply rooted
in a sincere heart, with real feelings. It is the most magical
remedy to help you create a balance in your life. But all
honesty must be shown intact, kindness, and culture, so it's
easy for you to distinguish real genuine wisdom from
shrewdness or cunning for profit.
is the truth from the heart, different from lies, deceit, and
tricks. And you are honestly an honest person, kind in
content, delicate in nature, calm, and gentle in all forms.
In daily life,
you have to interact with countless people with whom you must
communicate regularly. If you lack sincerity in contact, it
will make others hesitate. This does not benefit you on your
way to finding the future. On the contrary, being honest
always creates trust around you. Those who live with you, they
feel secure and at peace because they don't have to be
scrutinized, reserved, or skeptical. So sincerity is a means
to win the hearts of others. In daily communication or an
important business, honesty is also an indispensable
If you live in
a society that is always competed by others, the principle of
sincerity must be preserved more than ever. Because honestly,
you will create your own personal prestige and make everyone
around you admire you. From admiring you personally, one can
talk about lasting intimate issues.
honesty will give others the confidence, charisma, and
strength to succeed in life. Therefore, as a Buddhist, you
must practice honesty skillfully in order, to be honest with
others and with yourself. That is the key to success and
wisdom beyond the wise, and ultimately happiness and
honesty is always the most popular thing in life. People say:
- An ugly
truth is better than a good lie.
You have an
honest lifestyle that always creates an attraction for others,
because human nature is always towards the truth, about
always creates trust around you and is the warm spiritual
support of friends and relatives. Whoever lives around you, or
you live with them, they all feel safe and at ease because
they don't have to be scrutinized, reserved, skeptical, afraid
of being turned upside down, or having to discover the harsh,
shown not only in words but it must be deeply rooted in a
sincere heart, with real feelings to be convincing. So be
honest with others and with yourself. To do so, evaluate
yourself correctly, do not deceive yourself, and do not
This is only
in real life, but even in work, in factories, this point is
also highly appreciated. Because you may lack a bit of
experience, but it's trainable. As for trust, it must be
because of the sincerity that you have, no one can train you.
Living a lie
and living a double life only makes wisdom, trickery is
temporary wisdom, while sincerity and kindness are forever.
Wise people often know how to please others in order to
achieve success, so some of you have sought to please others
by deceiving others for their own gain. The question asked is:
- How do you
know a person is truly sincere?
The answer is:
person has nine unmistakable expressions:
1- Don't try
to get attention:
don't need to take care of their egos. A person who is not
sincere always tries to attract the attention of others and
always has gaps that need to be filled. In contrast, sincere
people are filled with self-confidence and self-awareness.
2- No need to
don't care if their loved or not. Because the need to be loved
arises from insecurity and excessive self-love. It leads to a
desire to control one's own and other's emotions.
3- Always be
stay sane even when those around them are mesmerized. Because
naive people can be easily fooled but sincere people are not.
Sincere people are always firm and alert to distinguish good
4- Words go
hand in hand with actions:
speak the truth, they can do what they say, they respect what
they say. They do not define words and do not embellish
reality. If others want to hear the truth, they won't hide it
even if it hurts them and their listeners.
5- Always know
do not ask for too much, they realize that happiness is not
far away, it is in themselves, in the people they love, and in
their work. They find happiness in very simple things.
are not too sensitive, they don't put their egos too high,
they have the ability to let go of their egos and don't feel
are not self-deprecating nor conceited, they are confident in
their strengths so they have no need to brag. They don't
flatter themselves and don't pretend to be modest.
person has a firm mind, is steady, not easily shaken. They
know themselves well and always express their true feelings,
they can more or less guess your thoughts and actions in a
9- Do what
don't advise others to do things they wouldn't do. Because
they realize that they are not better than anyone. Therefore,
they do not tend to assume that they are always right. True
serenity and happiness only come from the sincerity of the
inside, not from the outside.
always keep peace of mind, not afraid to encounter accidents,
while lies are often restless in the soul from one thing to
another. To be honest, there is only one portrait that is not
afraid of being discovered. Let's read the story of trying the
There was a
young man who went to buy a bowl, and as soon as he came to
the store, he grabbed a bowl with his hand. Then, in order,
lightly pound the other bowls. When two bowls hit each other,
it immediately makes a dull sound. He shook his head in
disappointment. Then he tried again with other bowls. He tried
almost all the porcelain bowls in the store and still couldn't
find the one he wanted. Even the bowl that the owner
considered the best product was returned by him shaking his
head in disappointment.
The boss was
very upset and asked:
- What do you
use this bowl to knock on another bowl for?
young man replied:
- This is the
tip of choosing a bowl that an elder taught, when one bowl
lightly touches another bowl, if it emits a clear,
easy-to-hear sound, it must be a good bowl.
the shop owner suddenly understood, took a bowl and gave it to
him, then smiled and said:
- Hey, you
take this and try it out, I'm sure you'll like it.
The young man
half believed and half doubted, took the bowl to try. Strange!
Each bowl in his hand, when lightly touched, made a clear,
pleasant sound. He couldn't understand what was going on, so
he asked the shop owner to clarify.
The shop owner
- It's very
simple, the first bowl you took to try was a second-class
bowl, if you used it to try the bowl, the sound would
definitely be dull. If you want to get a good bowl, you must
first make sure that the bowl you try is also good.
gives you morals:
- If you want
others to be honest with you, you must first be honest with
bowls bumping into each other is like a heart with a heart, it
takes honesty to have a sense of harmony and mutual respect.
You carry suspicion and always be wary of others, it is
difficult to avoid being doubted by others and not trusting
you. In fact, each of you can become a noble in your life, the
prerequisite is that you must be honest with others first.
If you show
sincerity, you will receive corresponding credibility, if you
give your heart of love, you will receive respect. On the
contrary, if you lie, are suspicious, or even jealous of
others, then what you will only get is aloofness and coldness.
A person, no
matter how rich or noble, will have no value, and will not
bring joy to anyone when they always carry in their hearts
self-satisfaction, lies, and dishonesty. In each of you, there
is a bowl, in other words, in each of you, there is an honest
heart, containing beliefs, tolerance, and honesty, but can
also contain lies. dishonest, narrow-minded, and selfish.
Let's remove impurities in the bowl, or in the mind, then
smile to receive the touch of contact with others, creating
pure laughter, open and full of love.
honest conduct and live well, you will definitely meet good
people. Because living honestly is the simplest way to bring
happiness. No matter how, then you show it like that, think
how you say it, say it like that, and just take responsibility
for yourself, no matter the outcome, your heart will be
peaceful, extremely healthy, and happy then immediately
present. Being honest is giving yourself the opportunity to
improve. To live honestly is to believe in the tolerance and
generosity of others for you. True living is an expression of
love and sharing instead of antagonism and self-defense. Your
true living is not trying to turn into someone, but still
keeping the mind light and peaceful.
someone who is practicing genuine conduct, you should always
keep in mind:
- It is not
wise to act wise, say wise words, or do difficult things to be
considered wise. Wise people are easy to succeed, but beyond
wisdom is sincerity, a weapon to conquer everyone's heart.
In life, many
people want to achieve success and believe that the key to
that success is to become a wise person soon. Therefore, some
people become wise by pleasing others, they may lie, live a
double life, or go to great lengths to achieve their goals.
Again, to repeat, an old sage once said:
wisdom, that is honesty.
contains a lot of profound meanings and is still valid in
today's life. If you apply this, although it is not certain
that you will be successful in work, you will certainly
succeed in life. Because honesty is always popular in life.
Especially in today's society, everywhere you look, you see
lies, and everywhere you look, you see flattery. You accept to
live with it, but in return, mutual trust is gone. So life for
some of you has become an illusory life
People with an
honest lifestyle naturally have an uncanny attraction to
others. Perhaps no matter how much you compete with life,
human nature is always towards the truth, towards suchness.
That's why the
ancients used to say:
- No matter
what you say or do, you must always be honest.
That way you
can see how valuable honesty is in this life. If you are
sincere with each other, your feelings and relationships from
intimacy to work will have enough faith to survive and
succeed. Honest people will always be loved and have a
peaceful, comfortable, and happy life.
So if you want
to be a good person, you must first be an honest person,
because if you are not honest with others but only tell lies,
that friendship will never last. At the same time as a good
person, you must know how to point out your friend's
shortcomings, to help him get better. With that, living with
sincere friends, life is always pleasant, and happy, always
living in an atmosphere full of trust. Only then will life
become meaningful and friendship will become more sacred and
practicing honest conduct will give you confidence, charisma,
and strength. So be honest with others and with yourself. To
do so, evaluate yourself correctly, do not deceive yourself,
and do not deceive others. But all honesty must be shown
intact, kindness, and culture or it can easily become
will help you a lot, in other words, honesty creates human
character. Being honest is not always easy, it requires
courage and being strict with yourself. Walter Anderson says:
- Life will
change when you know how to seize the opportunities for you,
but the first and most difficult opportunity is that you have
to be honest with yourself.
facing failures and losses, you still need to live honestly,
so that you can hold your head up high and live and feel peace
in your heart.
Honesty is not
only good behavior between people but also an ethical standard
that is admired and loved by many people. You practice honest
conduct always promising a bright future. Because if you are
honest, there are certainly good blessings. Even if your
destiny is difficult, if you live honestly, you will still be
able to transform your own destiny.
seem to be at a disadvantage at first, but what you get is
always greater than expected, which is people's trust.
It can be said
that where there is no honesty, there is no happiness and true
friendship. Each of you in life only lives once, so live it to
its fullest meaning. Only then will life advance and be filled
with joy like a song:
- Every day I
choose a joy,
flowers, choose smiles
I pick up the
leaves of the sky and invite you to hold them
Let your eyes
smile like flying leaves
And so I live
happily every day
And so I come
With my heart…
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